see, this is why we millienials throw so many lols into our text communication. so people know it’s not super serious.
Maybe he ate the chocolate off of her body, so that’s why she is not mad, just annoyed it made a mess.
When did she say she was mad??
Well sometimes some people don’t say directly that they’re mad but say things like “I’m annoyed”
it’s assumed that a woman is always mad at their male partner unless they are actively doing something to make her happy.
it’s a relationship trope.
and by mad not really angry, so much as dissatisfied.
Don’t eat chocolate in the bed you fuckin goblins!
Mode: Activated
Don’t buy fabrics you can’t wash. Seems kinda dumb.
Duvets usiually have duvet covers. The chocolate probably either went through the cover or it’s a button up duvet cover and got in.
The throw is what is unwashable. Dumb though, just wash it anyways or spot clean.
You can wash duvets.
I genuinely don’t see how this is confusing
She never even said she’s mad.
Annoyed < mad
She’s a keeper. You’re lucky. She’s letting you know what irritates her, and how to avoid aggravating her again and also providing a way to make it up to her. This is the way to a harmonious life.
He isn’t a keeper though, how the fuck do you eat chocolate in a way where it gets all over where you’re eating it? I’ve had chocolate and just about any other food while in bed and black out drunk and never gotten any stains on the bedclothes.
“happy wife happy life” seems so… antiquated though.
There’s truth in the saying though, since doing something nice to someone else feels good. And if that someone is a loved one, who you likely spend a lot of your time with/around, then that feeling is amplified.
Also it’s much more fun to spend time with people who are in a good mood than them being in a sour one.
See I missed that…I’m also divorced
this is the correct comment
Or she came up with a goal–and an annoyance to help drive it.
this is the fucked up comment
this is the meow meow comment. meow!
She was so mad about the chocolate, her mind immediately went to drinking.
That’s what I say too. Someone might have an issue.
People are capable of being annoyed by something but still make peace with their feelings and get on with their day.
Can some people not do this?
Not to mention that their partner is annoyed, but that doesn’t mean they suddenly don’t love them any more.
People weirdly paint each other as black and white, completely this or completely that, and don’t consider maturity and complexity. It’s odd.
Yes, there are people that can’t do that.
I know someone who received a phone call in the morning to ask if they were actually cool with their husband taking a trip across the country with him. Ruined her whole day. Couldnt go to work because she didnt want to cry in the office. She knew about the vacation and was fine with it. Still not entirely sure how that ruined her day, but it did.
I’m not sure I’m following the source of her negative feelings
some people want absolute control over their partner/loved ones. and can’t accept anything less.
Sounds like maybe she isn’t either.
The only way I could see it making sense is if the husband was going on a trip with another woman, or he has a history of cheating on her with men.
“Black and white” thinking is something that adhd and asd people struggle with constantly. It may not be a choice.
My gf and I both have ASD and being direct and stating exactly how we’re feeling in the moment bluntly has made things 2000% easier.
that’s awesome. it can take a lot of courage to be blunt, even if you’re very close to someone. i always have that voice in the back of my head going “was i too blunt? what if i offended them? what if they hate me now?” etc etc, even when i’m trying to be polite.
Usually when someone is contacting someone else while working on making peace with their feelings about that person’s behavior, it’s because they want to have a discussion with them about it. It’s unusual for it to be a one-and-done text without expectation of a response. But if a response is expected, it’s then unusual to follow up that text with another concerning a completely different topic. If I were in this situation, I’d find it hard to begin a discussion about her annoyance, which is valid and deserves to be explored, when the current topic is now a winery van.
No, and this comment annoyed me.
Pick your weapon, we meet at dawn.
(/s in case a moderator can’t read cues)
Its so easy to spot people who’ve been banned from reddit one too many times
Yeah, I blocked several politically inclined communities here, just because it’s bad for my “health”.
People who eat in bed are just animals.
My girlfriend got mad during sex the other day because she rolled over on her belly to change positions and CRUNCH potato chips I left in bed.
that’s just a mid-coitus snack! at least it wasn’t a pastrami sandwich.
You are an animal if you eat crisps in bed.
Meow.
I’ll eat on the toilet.
Italian sub, right? Or is that just a me thing?
Big money salvia is on lemmy?
Norovirus upvoted this.
🎶🎵 So let’s do it like they do on the Discovery Channel!🎶🎵
Thinking about people eating toast in bed makes me feel uncomfortable given the potential for crumbs.
I’m eating in bed rn, better than sharing space with smokers.
My wife eats in bed. Our cats don’t.
I somwtimes eat in bed but if I do it’s stuff like hard candy or nuts or something like that. Basically things that don’t leave crumbs or anything behind.
Meow.
Rowr
I dunno she pretty clearly said she’s annoyed which sounds like a description of how angry she is
And when someone texts you that “I’m not mad.” it also means they definitely aren’t mad lol
But how do I read these subtle hints, can’t she just tell me how she’s feeling?
i wonder how much extra stress access to instant non-verbal communication has added to humanity. like for thousands of years you could only talk to someone face to face or wait three months for a letter to arrive. we never really had to try and translate someone’s intent without the aid of vocal tone and body language until pretty recently.
Apparently not because even when she does nobody understands
So let me get this straight. People complain when their gf gets mad over little things like chocolate in bed. They also complain when she doesnt. Wtf?
Wish my wife would tell me if something bothered her this calmly instead of bottling it up until she bursts and gets angry. Im no better just to be clear.
I think the person is just confused because the first thing sounds like she could be angry about it but the second message sounds cheery
…y’all should work on that.
Ask her regularly if something is bothering her, or if there’s something you can do to make her day better.
Also, reflect on if there’s something you do that makes it hard for her to tell you her issues with you (body language, sighing, removing yourself, getting defensive…)
Maybe she just finds it hard to bother others with her problems, asking directly makes it easier.
And maybe you’re unconsciously communicating to her that she should leave you alone with her problems.
Anyway, the goal is to show her you’re by her side, tackling problems as a team. Not opposite her.Frequently asking someone if something is wrong is really, really annoying.
Ask her regularly if something is bothering her
yeah…that’s a one way road to hell.
I mean this is sound advice that can go wrong if you hace the emotional intelligence of a doorknob (whicgmh is a lot of people, mostly men). Don’t just ask “is something botheribg you” so dryly and regularly you becomw whafs bothering her, but open lines of communication where you make it clear that you’re trying to improve your communication and then genuinely check in on her. Dont just ask if something is bothwring her, but find out how shes been and what may be adding stress into her life. Don’t immediately seek to fix it, but try to understand if she just needs to vent stress or if there are issues you can tsckle together. If an issue is identified, remember it is you and her vs the issue, not you vs her.
Coffee cup meme.
Husband here.
Sometimes relationships end up with one “tidy one” and one “messy one”.
I busted my ass over the years to turn from a gremlin into a “tidy one”.
I got married to my “messy one”. She’s in charge of keeping the house clean.
I have to remind her not to eat in bed 🥲
Ok. I’m going to help you out. I’ll take your messy wife, and I’ll also be messy with her. We’ll eat chocolate in bed. We’ll leave trash in the shower. And burp in the car.
And you can take my wife.
Also, I’m not married.
Oh god, I just understood what an electric current is.
Oh god, I just understood what an electric current is.
How do they tie together?
TIL I have a lot of potential!
