• mech@feddit.org
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    17 hours ago

    Ask her regularly if something is bothering her, or if there’s something you can do to make her day better.
    Also, reflect on if there’s something you do that makes it hard for her to tell you her issues with you (body language, sighing, removing yourself, getting defensive…)
    Maybe she just finds it hard to bother others with her problems, asking directly makes it easier.
    And maybe you’re unconsciously communicating to her that she should leave you alone with her problems.
    Anyway, the goal is to show her you’re by her side, tackling problems as a team. Not opposite her.

      • The Stoned Hacker@lemmy.world
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        14 hours ago

        I mean this is sound advice that can go wrong if you hace the emotional intelligence of a doorknob (whicgmh is a lot of people, mostly men). Don’t just ask “is something botheribg you” so dryly and regularly you becomw whafs bothering her, but open lines of communication where you make it clear that you’re trying to improve your communication and then genuinely check in on her. Dont just ask if something is bothwring her, but find out how shes been and what may be adding stress into her life. Don’t immediately seek to fix it, but try to understand if she just needs to vent stress or if there are issues you can tsckle together. If an issue is identified, remember it is you and her vs the issue, not you vs her.