• Ghostie@lemmy.zip
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    6 hours ago

    Any kink that’s associated with a preoccupation with a natural body part that everybody has is a vanilla kink.

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    In the grand hierarchy of the internet, this is basically a vanilla preference. People acting like it’s a ‘Level 99’ boss are definitely overthinking it.

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    I have next to no sex drive so essentially any kink sounds absolutely crazy to me. When I took that bdsm test I got 97% vanilla lol

    like idk if I’m ace or not because I dont dislike the idea of doing it with someone, but like my drive to do it is really low compared to how other people describe it

    I’m also on estrogen, progesterone, an antidepressant, and 2 different kind of anxiety meds and they are probably a factor worth mentioning

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      Yeah all those meds can have sex drive impacts, so that’s definitely going to muddy the waters, but you need your meds so it kinda makes your medicated state your status quo. I’ve got ADHD which has it’s own sexual complications and antidepressants as well and I feel like sex isn’t particularly important to me, like I’ll have it if it’s going down, but not bothered if it’s not. But for me it’s like I almost wish I cared more? Like I miss the days of being a dumb horny teenager but just a fleeting thought, along with the rest of my fleeting thoughts… SQUIRREL!

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    I think it’s weird. Like, people who enjoy this are obviously in the minority… At the same time, I would never judge anyone with this fetish, I wouldn’t even think about it or bring it up. Who the hell cares what consenting adults do!?

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    Like, do y’all grope the pits or are they just like a visual thing? Not judging, just like to understand how peoples kinks work

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      visual and smell for me. if i see a dude out and about wearing a tank top i cant help but look at his pits area and think pls raise your arms for a second and give me a pit slip + wonder what they smell like, lol. thankfully i have a bf who is down to do whatever i want so i’m free to sniff and lick his pits as much as i want.

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      It’s mostly visual for me. Like when a woman lifts her arms, it makes other things more appealing, so there’s an association there.

      On the lucky occasion I’m with a woman who doesn’t shave, I just want to pet it, like if I could pet a squirrel. Like, what even is this? It’s so rare and adorable.

      Anyway it’s times like this I think I should have an alt account on Lemmy.

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        Okay that was gonna be my follow up. Guess I’m glad people are starting to lean back towards natural body states.

        Yeah I kind of miss the discussions people would have back when internet forums were a little more anonymized. We’re trading that for some other values so at least rest assured there’s a non zero amount of people here uninterested in going through your post history for possible arm pit related comments.

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      I like to lick them. It’s not like a huge must, but if my face happens to be in that area and the arm happens to be raised to allow access, eh why not.

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      Here’s my attempt

      Tier 1: primary and secondary sex characteristics (my breast fetish is cliche); indicators of health or fertility such as muscles and flat/bigger stomachs (depending on whether starvation or obesity is a bigger concern where you are). This zone is the default, people assume you’re into this.

      Tier 2: other body parts such as feet, pits, body hair; extrapolations from tier 1 kinks such as lactation and post workout stink; I’ll also throw in role related ones such as mom/dad bods, being into certain professions or older/younger (adult) partners; also atypical body variants and body types not associated with health or fertility. This zone is normal but not the default

      Tier 3: I’d say is where you get into light bdsm, humanoid monster fuckers, etc. This zone is stuff where it’s way more common than people act, but still not the sort of thing normal people will casually mention

      Tier 4: heavier bdsm, nonhuman monsterfuckers. This is the “hear me out” zone and the realm of you know you’re kinky af, but it’s generally considered prudish to have a problem with people liking it, but not to not want to hear anything about it

      Tier 5: scat, flatulence, bug chasing, and other things where even the tier 4 people are often uncomfortable with it. Typically gross and/or destructive

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        Gotta have a tier 0 for the ace/pan/demi/etc out there. Though agreed people generally assume tier 1. … Although pansexual is probably tier 1, too, otherwise that seems more demi.

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          Ace people without kinks do not have kinks and have not been included in this tier list. Neither have been the people who find people attractive but have no particular focus to their attraction beyond finding people attractive for the same reason. It’s not “I think boobs are part of what makes a woman attractive” it’s “oh I’m an absolute tit girl”. It’s just that it’s extremely common to have a sexual focus on one or more sex characteristics or a specific normative body type.