Edit: ‘Chase’ in this phrase is not meant to be taken literally.
For some extra information on the quote: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/compassionate-feminism/202504/the-psychology-of-dont-chase-attract
Edit: ‘Chase’ in this phrase is not meant to be taken literally.
For some extra information on the quote: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/compassionate-feminism/202504/the-psychology-of-dont-chase-attract
If I may respond to this and no disrespect intended when I say this: I do not agree at all with this sentiment, to just shoot your shot. With all due respect, but if you’re not getting signals from her it will only serve to embarrass you.
How the fuck are you not getting signals from someone and still hoping to “attract” them? If you’re unable to make a connection enough to where you’re seen by a specific person as attractive, then you haven’t done enough to be noticed by that person. You still have to put in the work to be noticed. And many people would describe that simple act as “shooting your shot.”
No, see that’s where you give up. If you’re not getting signals from them then you leave it at that.
I don’t see how simply stating you like someone will make you any more attractive. Hence, I don’t agree with the just shoot your shot approuch among other reasons. If you ask me, I would take that as a sign they’re not interested.
But not getting signals is the default from people who don’t know you. How are you expecting to cross into a place where you are getting signals if you always stop before actually interacting with someone?
If you can’t flirt with people you’re basically closing yourself off to 80% of the world who might give you a chance after a single conversation.
Go interact with people. Some of those people will give you signals to back off. Some will not give signals at all. Some will give signals to continue. If the “no signals” means stop to you, you’re gonna have a rough time even making friends.
As long as you don’t do anything truly bad when shooting your shot, the worst that could happen is some mild embarassment. Which is something you have to be prepared to endure when putting yourself out there.
In the mating game it’s up to the guys to advertise interest and the gals to make a choice.
Women are pros at dealing with endless expressions of interest, they rarely know how to show/express it. Just be respectful and let go of expectations going in.
Don’t let the endless whining seen on social media deter you, it’s mostly lies.
If men bore the babies and women had to do the mating advertising, the human race would be extinct.
seriously, attract don’t chase is how you stay alone.
love is the most common resource on earth, for anyone even remotely healthy/attractive as a partner. repeated exposure, common interests/experiences to bond over, and a willingness to learn/grow is all you need to fall for anyone.
pursue, but just take rejection like an adult. no means no etc. first couple times sting but it gets easier with time/practice