I’ve been with my boyfriend since 2024. Our relationship has to be on the down low / an open secret because dating isn’t permissible among his people. His family says they really like me, but they’d never accept me as his wife since I’m not Arab, maybe as a second wife, but the first wife has to be someone they approve of. I don’t want to be a second wife. I’m with him despite all of this because he treats me great, fucks me good, and gets me (he’s very open-minded and chill, and I feel fully comfortable with him). But I know he won’t go against his family for me because of $$$.
Some people have specific long-term goals in mind for relationships; some just enjoy living in the present; most are somewhere between. Nobody else can say which is right for you.
Another commenter wrote that you’re probably about 18 years old. You may not know which of the above best describes you, and that’s perfectly normal at that age. I hesitate to tell anyone else what to do in their personal life, but if a compelling opportunity comes along that conflicts with your relationship, whether it’s another prospective relationship or moving away for school or work, remember that your boyfriend won’t prioritize your relationship when his parents find an Arab girl for him to marry.