I’m especially interested in how this kind of thing varies regionally and culturally. In 2021, I got married in a civil ceremony with just the three witnesses legally required present: my parents and my husband’s son. The fact that there was no big fat Indian wedding pissed my family off so much that they gave me the cold shoulder for about a year, and to this day I still get remarks from them. I was in my 30s, my husband in his 60s, and both of us are no-nonsense, practical people. The secular civil route felt like the best option for us. Plus, we had just met the year before, and it was very much a go-with-the-flow situation.
I married a quality person and we were very happy together. This greatly angered my miserable mother and my two older brothers.
The thing about self destructive people is they blame everyone for their shit.
Hos did it turn out? I kicked them all out of my life.
Had undiagnosed depression/OCD/autism/ADHD. That one kicked up a lot of fuss. Hell, even more than me transitioning, and being gay, and my family’s Catholic.
Turned out poorly. Got yelled at a lot, developed a weird complex, got basically ignored when I wasn’t being yelled at. Overall 0/10 experience, and I only really talk to 2 family members now.
For me it was when I stopped going to church. I didn’t go to Easter service, a very important date to our church, and it caused massive backlash. My mother stayed in bed and cried all day, cancelled all of the dinner plans we had that evening, and told family not to come visit. I eventually went and bought fast food for my brother because she refused to do anything for us that day. It took a very long time for her to get over that one.
