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  • Speedtest hasn’t been trustworthy for a while. Okla bought them and immediately started selling to ISPs nodes that they could install (probably just a container or something) that would sit as a “local” speedtest node, so you were testing your connection to the ISP, not testing your actual internet connection. (i.e. giving you the best possible results and what your ISP wanted you to believe).

    Fast.com is slightly better in that Netflix spun it up to test your connection to their servers. So it’s independent of ISPs - but then they built high speed optic lines to most ISPs so it’s more like the second-best possible speed.

    Accenture will be the same or worse. I don’t trust it for speedtests anymore.



  • Exactly. It should all be treated as another tool in the toolbelt. To me, it reminds me of when GUI editors came along in IDEs like Visual Studio. It honestly feels the same. Tech CEOs immediately clamor to say that tech jobs are dead, the market for engineers dips. Engineers freak out and refuse to learn the technology while others learn what it is. Those who learn and use it as a tool elevate themselves and move faster. There is a non-trivial group of people who refuse to use the GUI tools on principal. Eventually the CEOs realize they made a mistake, and then more work comes in faster than ever before. Eventually over the years/decades everyone starts using the tech as a tool.

    It’s the same with an AI. Like it’s following the exact same pattern to a T. CEOs starting to realize that it’s just a tool that can be used, but it needs people at the helm to know how to use it. Devs are split, some it’s accelerating their work if they know what it’s doing, others see a useless boondoggle and refuse to use it but are probably only hurting themselves because every interview is asking “are you using AI”. I’d say we’re finally starting to normalize on it’s usage as a tool.











  • I disagree with the other commenter. Your male friend is irrelevant, it comes down to trust, does your boyfriend trust you. I don’t like the opinion of the commenter of “Just dump him”, that’s a very throwaway concept. (Something isn’t perfect? Throw it out of your life. I don’t like that line of thinking)

    I think you should communicate with your boyfriend, ask him why he feels that way, and ask why he feels like he can’t trust you. It’s a dialogue you two need to have. It won’t be a fun one, but if you both want the relationship to work you’ll come out stronger. (If he tries to say things like “He’s waiting for his turn”, turn it around, make it about you and him. “But do you trust me”?) You then give him time to learn and adjust to it. Of course if he refused to learn or adjust, and it doesn’t work, then it becomes a more serious decision.

    My anecdote, I was your boyfriend for a long time. My SO, now spouse, was hanging out with someone who was clearly interested. To make it worse, I had been cheated on before so it was a massive trigger for me, and I was immediately paranoid (cheating really fucks with your trust). I grew jealous and it became very unhealthy. If my SO took the other commenter’s advice, we wouldn’t have the life we have now. Thank god they didn’t, and instead talked to me, and gave me the ability to learn and grow. I learned to trust her, and worked on myself, and now 15 years later we’re both very happy and have built a life together.