But when I became a man, I spent hundreds of dollars on eBay to try to relive childish things
I sold everything on the thrifty nickel!
I fully expected the description to be: “I still do, but I used to, too”
Protip: you can spend thousands of dollars on ebay to buy adult things as well.
Best pro tip ever. And not just eBay, either.
Just don’t go with Amazon. They accept returns no questions asked and put them back on the shelves…
Also, they directly fund fascists.
Hmmmm, that sound’s good, I’ll have that.
Why not both?
What I realized at 29 years old is that adults don’t exist. Everyone just figures it out on the fly and pretends to be wiser. Sometimes to elevate ourselves above other people, sometimes to give them an opportunity to steady themselves in the uncertain world.
Realizing my parents, grandparents, school teachers and so on had always been just people hit pretty hard, somewhere in my twenties.
But this also means that everyone deserves to have a moment to stop pretending and just comfort themselves. It’s not a sin to be childish.
Wow so you just called me right out like that huh
For now we see through a glass, darkly; but then face to face with an outrageous credit card bill and a bunch of random crap.
When I was a child, when I fell I got a bruise, a bobo kiss and a bandaid. As an adult I get a fractured limb/joint and medical debt that I will pay on until I die.
When I was a child I loved peas
Hundreds? Those are rookie numbers!
All I need to do is dip into a vial of LSD to feel childlike wonder and glee!
But when I became a man, I already had over 30 million power in Rise of Kingdoms.
Question for everyone who can relate to OP: is your life fulfilling in areas that don’t involve consumerism/sensorial pleasure and have you reached some of the expected life milestones for your age and sex?
In some ways, yes. At 36, I have a wife and kids whom I love and enjoy. I’m a very lucky man in that respect. During my 20’s and my first (God awful) marriage, I resigned myself to the idea that I would never have a family.
My job is not particularly fulfilling. In fact, when asked in interviews which parts of my career I’ve enjoyed most my answer is, without hesitation, “the jobs I didn’t get paid for.” Volunteering for things that had a meaningful impact on people’s lives has always been very satisfying. Sadly, I haven’t had time to do much of that in recent years. In my experience, there is a lot of truth in the statement, “It is more blessed to give than to receive.” I hope to get back to doing more volunteer work when my younger kids are a little bigger.
Lovely post, lovely perspective. ❤️
45yo here, and yeah, kinda.
I’m happily married (for the second time), and have a decent job that no longer requires back breaking manual labour that enables me to clock off at 4pm and fuck off home where I don’t have to think about. I have a grown up kid who’s just graduated with a law degree and is forging his own path in life. All things considered, I’m pretty chill. I try to take a more adult, considered view on things that affect me.
I don’t own my home, because my wife isn’t able to earn as much, so we can’t get a mortgage, but I’ve kind of made peace with that.
And I’ve accrued some of the toys I couldn’t afford when I was younger. I have a collection of computers that I can tinker with, an an iPod that I love.
That’s pretty cool, NGL, I also love my gadgets. 👍
OP here.
I’m a bachelor with a lucrative career, which has resulted in a good amount of free time and funny money. I treat my nostalgia collections like an archive and get a great deal of enjoyment from tending to them. I also have a handful of other hobbies that are intermingled or separate.
The only typical milestone I feel like I skipped was homeownership, because I lived like a vagabond a good deal of my adult life.
Right now the only thing I genuinely feel is missing that would increase my happiness, is an exercise routine.
Right now the only thing I genuinely feel is missing that would increase my happiness, is an exercise routine.
I’ll put in a plug for cycling. You can nerd out over the latest bike gear, restore vintage bikes, or just pay the nice folks at your local bike shop to set you up and focus on the riding, it’s up to you!
You can also ride “unplugged,” or you can measure speed, cadence, heart rate, even power output (if you spend $$$)—again, something for everyone!
Good luck!
I don’t know, I’m not sure I wanna be biking around town with something in my ass.
The cadence and heart rate sensors are usually not inserted into the body. The issue could also be that you need a different type of seat.
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First of all, congrats! But what about the wife and kids, you know, childrearing and community building, you got any plans regarding that? Or are you still too young (in that case, double congrats lol) to be thinking about these things?
I’m not a spring chicken anymore, let’s just put it that way.
I’ve never wanted children. I also realized a handful of years ago, that I’m happier and healthier when I’m not in long-term romantic relationships. I’ve got friends, immediate family in neighboring cities, and two cats. That’s more than enough company for me.
To each their own. NGL, I wish I had a bit more disposable income to put into some of my hobbies… but I’m happy some of us can. 👍
I identity with this…
