Same person, new user cause I’m transitioning LOL.
Well, I want to make as many people feel loved as I can, and I want to feel like part of a community. Both of those are achievable goals outside of polyamory, but I anticipate that I will be able to love people in a more full way if I am not worrying about whether a relationship is romantic or not. I guess that is a big part, that I get all in my head about where a friendship is going and (if I’m in a relationship) if I’m going to have to set some boundary to keep it from getting romantic or whatever, and I don’t know, if I’m polyamorous I don’t have as much to worry about.
Also, I tend to be attracted to all kinds of people because I’m pansexual, and I am attracted to probably about 1/3 of the people I meet, especially if they are my age. Probably less than that but it feels like 1/3. I am also interested in the variety it would open up to me, whether that’s finding partners with shared hobbies, going do different activities with different partners, or exploring sex in different ways with different partners.
I am really excited about being polyamorous. Unfortunately, my partner was not interested, and so after a month of thinking and talking we decided to split up for that and some other reasons. So that’s sad. But I also feel a sense of freedom from not being monogamous and I am optimistic about where this will take me.
While I myself am not (currently) poly, I do a few friends who are. From my experiences and those of said friends the hardest part of balancing the relationships is exactly that. Balance. I only ever went from one to two as I know myself well enough to know that if I expanded any further than that I’d start slipping on keeping up with people. My closest friend who is poly has 3, sometimes 4 people, and those people are with others who are not the same group. It’s kind of a web of people.
Same person, new user cause I’m transitioning LOL.
Well, I want to make as many people feel loved as I can, and I want to feel like part of a community. Both of those are achievable goals outside of polyamory, but I anticipate that I will be able to love people in a more full way if I am not worrying about whether a relationship is romantic or not. I guess that is a big part, that I get all in my head about where a friendship is going and (if I’m in a relationship) if I’m going to have to set some boundary to keep it from getting romantic or whatever, and I don’t know, if I’m polyamorous I don’t have as much to worry about.
Also, I tend to be attracted to all kinds of people because I’m pansexual, and I am attracted to probably about 1/3 of the people I meet, especially if they are my age. Probably less than that but it feels like 1/3. I am also interested in the variety it would open up to me, whether that’s finding partners with shared hobbies, going do different activities with different partners, or exploring sex in different ways with different partners.
I am really excited about being polyamorous. Unfortunately, my partner was not interested, and so after a month of thinking and talking we decided to split up for that and some other reasons. So that’s sad. But I also feel a sense of freedom from not being monogamous and I am optimistic about where this will take me.
Thanks for asking!
While I myself am not (currently) poly, I do a few friends who are. From my experiences and those of said friends the hardest part of balancing the relationships is exactly that. Balance. I only ever went from one to two as I know myself well enough to know that if I expanded any further than that I’d start slipping on keeping up with people. My closest friend who is poly has 3, sometimes 4 people, and those people are with others who are not the same group. It’s kind of a web of people.
Thanks for sharing!