“Don’t talk unless you can improve the silence.”
“Boop.”
But also, I think similarly for commenting online.
90% of the time, I type out a comment, only to hit cancel and move on. It’s surprisingly cathartic.Improve it for who?
Someone not me: “My social anxiety.”
People are bagging on your comment because it could seem really smug out of context, but …
I have lately finally learned the lesson that when I feel the urge to give advice, it is my brains fucked up way of telling me what I need to be doing too.
This new realization means I now leave many more things unsaid, and it seems to be working as a better social strategy.
“Silence 2: This Time It’s Quieter”?
Is that anything?
A fart is the wind is better than a fart with the windows closed -Buddha (or something idk)
Shouldnt this be “improve on the silence”? If you talk there is not silence so you cannot improve the silence by talking. But you can improve on the silence with good words making.
don’t tell me what to do. i just took a massive shit.
I read some piece of advice a while back (on lemmy I think) about when to talk, “Does it need said? Does it need said right now? Does it need said by you?” and it really stuck with me.
I’m definitely a talker, and my friends and family will talk all day. But I know my partner can find it a bit much, so having a basic rule has been surprisingly helpful. I might want to tell him about the intresting thing that I read, but does he really want to hear that? We might need to talk about something important but stressful, maybe bringing it up just before bed isn’t the best idea?
It is all pretty obvious stuff, but I spent three decades only really spending time with people who talked all the time too. I didn’t need to worry about bringing something up at the wrong time, because if I did, they would immediately say “oh I don’t want to talk about that because…” and explain or change the subject. I didn’t worry about a conversation being uninteresting, because if it was we’d quickly tangent into something that worked for us both.
dOn’T tAlK uNlEsS yOu CaN iMpRoVe ThE sIlEnCe
Username checks out.
Says the person who deliberately called themselves sweet fart
farts
That’s why I stfu in public.
I just saw your post during a meeting and I’m about to apply this mantra now
Where were you when someone told me to watch the video of the guy with the mason jar?
This is how arrogant and pretentious people act when on their high horses. You’d better stfu yourself.
