These past few days, I realized that I essentially have no idea what my husband actually does for a living. I know he’s a businessman and involved in different industries; that’s about it. I guess I was never curious, as long as he brings money home + he doesn’t talk about work when he’s not working. I just don’t really have any interest in business.
If your partner does some secret government funded stuff, then it’s probably better you know nothing about it. Obviously, there could be a cover story about working with tax calculations or something boring like that, but does that count? You would kinda know about the fake job but not about the terminator robot research.
Then again, your partner could also be a psychopath mafia boss and a drug lord who keeps everything secret… might be safer if you don’t know. Or you might want to know so that you can run away. It’s complicated. Would you even survive if you found out? Better not ask.
With normal people though, it’s common to have a pretty good idea about what your partner does for a living. How many people never talk about work stuff at home? Sounds pretty strange to me.