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oh god that’s it; you’re an utterly insufferable person. And learning how to constructively approach injustice by conserving and directing your energy towards actions that will make the most real difference is a core goal of the therapy. Either put in the effort to become someone people want to be around or accept people don’t want to be around you.

No one is making you be here. You can click a button and start your own community or even spin up your own server and if your modding policies are that much better people will switch. …or none or very few of the users like what you say and the mod just happens to be the one responsible for telling you.

Is it frustrating to be part of the outgroup? Sure. Is it frustrating to have an opinion people dislike or don’t think is worth leaving their ingroup for? Sure. But that’s just called being a weirdo. Lots of people are weirdos. I’m a weirdo. In fact it’s often hard for me to get certain things done or find certain products. Bigelow doesn’t stock my favorite flavor in most stores because it’s not popular enough. That’s not oppression that’s just being unpopular.

Being a weirdo isn’t for the faint of heart. Dialectal behavior therapy changed my life and teaches four ways to approach a problem. 1. Stop seeing it as a problem. 2. Fix the problem (conform). 3. Accept the problem. 4. Stay whiny. I tend to vacillate between 1 and 3 (sigh sadly and order my tea online) but I spend little time engaging in #4 (bitching online about how it’s other people’s fault).

I’m not even going to look into your specific ideology. With people who say these things I often regret finding out.

Suicide should be a human right. You should have to prove that you’re of sound mind and that you’ve considered and tried all other options. But once you’ve proven you’re not manic, psychotic, intoxicated, being coerced, etc and no other option will reasonably bring you peace you should be able to do it and get help making sure you don’t get stuck halfway or receive comfort care only until it’s over. Also every psych unit I’ve worked requires suspension of a DNR which terrifies me for involuntary admits.

Had an micro teacher a long time ago at community college where 90% of his students were in healthcare career tracks. He told us when we’re home to roll in the dirt, eat food straight off the vine after a quick polish with your shirt and for the most part only wash our hands after the toilet and before eating / prepping food or anything specifically medical like wound care or putting on contracts and that you should basically never use hand sanitizer at home. …then at work you wash your hands every time you touch pretty much anything. Said that was the key to a strong immune system.

This is what I’m saying! Maybe it’s like that game from rick and Morty. 1% chance you get a brain tumor, 1% chance you just get put in the wrong body in some way or other cuz fuck you that’s why.

It’s not the age gap it’s the raising her / being her caretaker as a small child and having all those surrogate father-daughter moments. Switching suddenly from father-daughter to love interest… 😬

How do you know you didn’t and you just happened to guess wrong? Like you were like oh “seems cool” then your neurons grew in mismatched.

No it’s because he’s too cheap to even hire a catering company and his first lady or first daughter or whoever isn’t even up to faking the whole party hostess part of that role by hiring an event planner to do it for her.

…am I…♂️…???

Telling people younger than me not to worry about things. Like even coworkers I only have like a decade on. No you sweet little child that’s for us adults to deal with please wait off to the side and observe while I handle this bullshit.

It’s still fucked.

One of my coworkers commented on one of our difficult patients calling the weekend crew racist against them and how ridiculous it was because both the patient and the weekend nurses are black. I was like oh yeah no that’s because the weekend nurses aren’t black (being a cultural term for African-American), they’re African. Emphasis on the not-born-American. That’s different (to people who care about that sort of thing). Is it rational? Not even a little, but racism, despite the claims of phrenology et al, is about as far from rational as you can get.

I was gonna say that some of this is also probably sentencing bias. Subjectively the correlation seems too strong to not have some truth to it. I also have other data to support male = higher violence risk largely outside of perceptual bias.

As an example from my area of expertise, men complete suicide more often because they typically choose deadlier means (guns especially) vs women are more likely to attempt something like a drug overdose which is more reversible / leaves more opportunity for aborting the attempt. There’s not a lot of room in those stats for perceptual bias, dead is dead and alive is alive. It’s basically a known fact that men are more violent to themselves. I won’t get too much into the stats of violence against others except to say that the statistical predictor tool I’ve used for that in institutional environments didn’t use “male,” it used “male under 30y/o.”

On the other end of perceptual errors almost govern criminal sentencing. Entrusting a group of people to judge an event reduces some but not all of the perceptual bias, but certainly can’t eliminate it. And I do also have my own subjective / experiential perspective that is similar but in some ways inverted to yours (but is also almost certainly occurring in a 100% different environment):

When I first started in my field I was told and found to be true that when you’re breaking up a fight between men all you need to do is break eye contact. You get between them back to back with a coworker and if you can’t block their sightline to each other with your bodies you shove one of them around a corner. And that’s it. Within about 30 seconds they’re in tension reduction talking about their feelings in that emotionally constipated way western men do (“he just made me so mad!”). Otoh I was told and found to be true that you let the women go at it until the entire code team arrives from your surrounding units because you’re going to basically have to do a full restraint episode for each woman.

(Sorry I have lots of thoughts about violence it’s actually kinda my area of professional expertise.)

I did this to epic on my charge nurses computer last night and she thought it was magic. I’ve made it clear that I will provide these and many other services to the charge nurse as long as I don’t ever have to actually do it personally (I don’t want to have to explain to other adults what their job is). Thus the balance is maintained.

There is but you gotta think on your feet as it were and even then you don’t always succeed. When I was last hospitalized I knew my silicone laces were psych safe but I didn’t bother trying to explain it to the employee; I just asked if they could take them out. They poked at them for a few seconds before realizing and I got to wear my own shoes for the rest of my stay. You gotta give people juuust enough info to sneak the realization in there and it’s a suuuper hard (and moving) target to hit.

Yeah I’m worried about them

a) creating botnets that simulate grassroots political movements

b) as this user said, the joke about everybody having their own government agent was absurd because that level of attention given to an individuals activity was impossible. That’s about to be a lot less impossible.

Can’t recommend nursing for neurodivergence. Not in a “you’re not good enough” kinda way. I very much proved that I can. I had to learn a buuunch of new social and communication skills, and I did have to “prove” I could to my instructors and for about the first six months at any new job.

You can absolutely be a nurse with neurodivergence. But whether it’s right or wrong, you’re going to have to put in some extra effort in areas you’re probably not used to. You should first consider whether or not that’s actually worth it to you. That part matters more than people admit.

It also helps that I work psych. I’m doing a lot of communication with people more like me. But that also comes with the downside of a lot of that communication being them yelling at me and trying to hit me. They’re specifically the subset of neurodivergents with more trauma, or in a particularly bad place in their life, and often were never taught the emotional regulatory skills needed to solve problems without doing that (my sister certainly never learned them while we were growing up and I’ve got a permanent back injury to prove it).

Again right or wrong matters very little there. Should someone have gone to the extra effort to teach them not to hit people in ways that they were able to fully engage with? Definitely. Do neurotypicals also sometimes miss learning that skillset? Sure, but it happens less often because more childcare services are designed to teach them those skills than neurodivergent children. Still leaves me dodging punches from auDHD peeps at the end of the day.

Most people are good. Most people forget to be kind to others sometimes.

Some people forget to be kind to others more. I kinda don’t like that.

Some people need to cause others discomfort to feel like they are in control of their lives. I dislike that.

Some people feel that they have the right to or even should cause others discomfort because they have some kind of birthright granted by their religion, how aggressive their ancestors were, or some perception that they’ve worked harder than others. I feel that such people should either be rigorously reeducated or in some way removed from access to other humans entirely.

At first I thought the mistake was the powdered creamer. I’ve worked in institutions basically my entire adult life and I’ve had all kinds of shit coffee and I’d rather just rawdog the boiled suggestion of coffee straight from the concentrate carton’s teat than fuck with that grittyass bullshit.