• flicker@lemmy.world
      32·
      9 months ago

      This is a fantastic response.

      Sex toys have come a long way, fellas! Don’t worry about what women are using unless those women have invited you to witness! (My current fave thing is shaped like a mouth with a tongue sticking out and I’m not even a lesbian!)

    • Cethin@lemmy.zipEnglish
      7·
      9 months ago

      That’s not what the inside of a vagina looks like. The answer is that evolution caused that shape to be one that’s good at causing a pleasure sensation from penetration of a vagina. However, other shapes also exist and also do this. The penis shape is just the classic option.

  • captainlezbian@lemmy.world
    124·
    9 months ago

    Because it’s not the penis we hate we just aren’t attracted to the dicks typically attached to them.

    Also sex toys have evolved from just penis shaped dildos. Many of us prefer abstract shapes or stuff like finger shapes for those, but also vibrators and suction toys are popular.

    Also I’m pretty sure I’ve been hearing this joke since before I hit puberty

      • captainlezbian@lemmy.world
        13·
        9 months ago

        Yeah and I think part of why the joke annoys me is like, is that all some men think of themselves as? Like when I think of what I find particularly unattractive about men my first thought isn’t dick, it’s that smell that drives straight women crazy, it’s just such a turn off to me. There’s plenty else too, but like that joke is part of an entire class of shit that (particularly older) men say to lesbians that leaves me thinking they really need to talk to some people who are actually attracted to men about what they like, and to understand that in general even when I like the same part it being too masculine is not for me.

        • MagicPterodactyl@lemmy.ml
          9·
          9 months ago

          Very true. I’m bi and while I like dick it’s not exactly the first thing that attracts me to men. I think in general the root of these kinds of jokes is the idea that deep down all women NEED men to be sexually satisfied, and a general assumption that lesbians are perpetually on the brink of “switching sides”. Just more homophobia as per usual.

          • captainlezbian@lemmy.world
            5·
            9 months ago

            Yeah my favorite is the guys trying to assure us that they’re so masculine they can turn us and I’m just here like, if I absolutely had to sleep with a guy I’d pick the most feminine one I could.

            And I think the real root of these jokes is insecurity in their value. If they value women for sex what value do they have to women who don’t want them for sex? And the answer is simple, it’s as a person. My friends that are men are my friends because they’re people I like to spend time with. And they’re of all orientations, but with the shared trait of being good guys. You can’t be so manly every woman wants you in bed, partly because some of us don’t want men at all but also because there are straight women and bi women who like their men effeminate or androgynous. Tastes vary so you’ll never be everyone’s type.

  • Bizarroland@kbin.social
    95·
    9 months ago

    Real answer is that it’s not that they don’t like dick it’s that they don’t like the dicks attached to them

  • Maxxus@sh.itjust.worksOP
    33·
    9 months ago

    Judging by the responses, I feel I should convey I relate to the professor and absurdity is that the student would ask such dumb off-topic question.

    As for the question itself, people like what they like, they don’t need to justify themselves. Which is what makes question dumb.

  • outer_spec@lemmy.blahaj.zone
    28·
    9 months ago

    as a femcel college student whos never owned a sex toy (my mom looks at my credit card account and I don’t want to embarrass her) here’s my thots on this.

    1. cis lesbians probably would use fleshlights more if they had something to stick in them. maybe they could rub their clit & labia in the hole, but it still seems kinda wasteful since they’re only using the top part. it would probably be a better idea to get a grinder that vibrates

    2. we like the gock 🚀💎🍆🤲😎

    • BottleOfAlkahest@lemmy.world
      25·
      9 months ago

      So most places online that sell sex toys have very innocent names that they bill you under. They will often list it as “you will see this charged to innocent-sounding-name” so that you don’t accidentally assume it’s fraud on your statement.

  • RachelRodent@lemmy.dbzer0.com
    20·
    9 months ago

    probably because the point isn’t plastic penis but long plastic object that doesn’t neccesarily have to be reminiscent of a penis

    • somegeek@programming.dev
      6·
      9 months ago

      But why is it made exactly like a penis. Why do they like to suck on the fake penis. Lesbians are basically straight but also like titties.

      • Ashelyn@lemmy.blahaj.zone
        37·
        9 months ago

        Tell me you got most of your views on lesbians from porn without telling me you got most of your views on lesbians from porn

      • SasquatchBanana@lemmy.world
        28·
        9 months ago

        Meme answer: yes

        Serious answer: sexuality is much more complicated and doesn’t only involve sexual organs. Sexuality encompasses a social and cultural aspect as well. Including transwomen also means including women can have penises. Things like straight pegging is becoming more main stream as well. Just like how a lesbian uses a penis shaped dildo, a man using a dildo isn’t necessarily gay, bi, or pan. There’s also a biological function as well. Women and men did evolve concurrently together which means our genitals “fit together” which may explain why some people prefer a penis like dildo. I think this idea gets supported as we look at the plethora of dildo adjusted and created to really hit the spot like bad dragons and others.

  • nickwitha_k (he/him)@lemmy.sdf.org
    9·
    9 months ago

    The most likely reason, I suspect, is that “mainstream” sex toys were not made for lesbians until relatively recently. They were made for hetero women diagnosed with “hysteria” and, generally, by companies run by cis-het men.