• ramble81@lemmy.zipOP
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      7 hours ago

      I’ve tried, but the problem is I enjoy both and also apparently have commitment issues.

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        Nothing is binary

        I took a bio psych class that got into neurotransmitters and shit, the professor started almost every class with:

        “Normal” is just the average, if anyone was exactly “normal” they’d be the weirdest most unique human ever

        Because a lot of people get freaked out about their own when they start learning about psychology or genetics, smacking them together and teaching 20 somethings is a recipe for existential crisis.

        Your brain is sorting people into binary groups because that’s an easy shortcut our brain uses for everything. But what’s normal at the gathering of the juggalos is weird almost everywhere else. It’s all subjective and there’s a lot more ways than one to be normal.

        Maybe someone is 99.9999% “normal” but they peel hard boiled eggs with their teeth like a psychopath. You’d never know till you saw them do it, but it would instantly recategorize them in your head as “weird” without a second thought.

        But everyone knows they’re actually a unique snowflake, so it’s common for people to feel like they don’t belong to just one group. When it’s that everyone has that level of uniqueness, it’s just too much for our brains to keep track of, so we throw labels on people and treat them as groups.