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    10 hours ago

    Don’t try to fix loneliness by finding a “partner”.

    Fix your loneliness and in the process you’ll either find a partner or stop caring as much. But very few healthy people want a lonely partner.

    Even if you’re so lonely you’re uncomfortable around people, go volunteer at a Humane society and start walking dogs. It’ll ease you into human interaction, but everyone’s focus is on the dogs.

    But just look in general for anything that helps the community, a lot of people are wired to want to contribute to a group task. And even if you’re incredibly rusty with social skills, when you’re volunteering for a good cause people overlook a lot of weird stuff people do/say.










  • Plenty of people are doing their commute as their training ride because it makes sense to do so,

    Super convenient for them, but also very inconvenient for everyone else…

    Which is my entire point about some cyclists being selfish assholes and them being the minority…

    In another comment I mentioned how those selfish cyclists will always pretend they can’t be separated out, which I feel like is relevant here. And I know no amount of comments will change your mind because of that



  • I think part of it is that there are a lot of bike riders in US cities that are jerks

    A lot of the ones an average driver interacts with are…

    Especially in a city most cyclists are only on public roads on their way to/from a trail and they prioritize avoiding cars.

    It’s just because of that, you never see them or don’t notice them as you drive by.

    What everyone notices is the selfish dicks clogging up traffic, and they’re the ones who have made cycling a huge part of their identity, and they really want to pretend any criticism of them is a criticism of every bike rider, because it’s the only chance to defend the problematic ones.

    They’re a tiny minority of cyclists, and most don’t like them either.


  • The road is theirs as much as it is yours.

    People use the road to accomplish shit, going to work/school, get food, pick up kids, etc.

    Someone decked out like Lance Armstrong to make their exercise take as little physical effort as possible and uses a route that’s not planned with others in mind both in time and location is selfish. Especially people who do it during rush hour, and inconvenience 100s or even 1000s of people.

    There’s a big difference in that type of cyclist and someone that’s riding a bike in street clothes for a commute. And it doesn’t make sense to act like they’re the same.

    Like, there are loads of cities with great bike trails, but they’re not going to be great bike trails on every street. And obviously cyclists who are inconsiderate aren’t exactly rare