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  • I think part of it is that there are a lot of bike riders in US cities that are jerks

    A lot of the ones an average driver interacts with are…

    Especially in a city most cyclists are only on public roads on their way to/from a trail and they prioritize avoiding cars.

    It’s just because of that, you never see them or don’t notice them as you drive by.

    What everyone notices is the selfish dicks clogging up traffic, and they’re the ones who have made cycling a huge part of their identity, and they really want to pretend any criticism of them is a criticism of every bike rider, because it’s the only chance to defend the problematic ones.

    They’re a tiny minority of cyclists, and most don’t like them either.


  • The road is theirs as much as it is yours.

    People use the road to accomplish shit, going to work/school, get food, pick up kids, etc.

    Someone decked out like Lance Armstrong to make their exercise take as little physical effort as possible and uses a route that’s not planned with others in mind both in time and location is selfish. Especially people who do it during rush hour, and inconvenience 100s or even 1000s of people.

    There’s a big difference in that type of cyclist and someone that’s riding a bike in street clothes for a commute. And it doesn’t make sense to act like they’re the same.

    Like, there are loads of cities with great bike trails, but they’re not going to be great bike trails on every street. And obviously cyclists who are inconsiderate aren’t exactly rare








  • With no mention of the roads they drive on every day.

    They want toll roads too…

    When you have a shit ton of money, you want everything taxed on use, not earnings.

    Because you earn a lot and spend a very small percentage of that.

    They view any individual that “gets” more than they personally pay in as a “taker”. Despite the entire reasons we have safety nets is statistically someone will need help.

    But once no one anywhere benefits from it more than they paid in, it’s easy for the wealthy to convince us we don’t need it at all. Because it’s not benefiting anyone and has really becomes a waste.

    It’s very basic manipulation.

    You can’t argue “what about roads!” Because they’re argue for toll roads everywhere or a tax on actual miles driven. Don’t let them set the argument, point out how no one knows who will need it till they need it, so we all pay in and hope we’re fortunate enough to not need it. But if we do, we don’t have to die in a gutter.

    Don’t tug on heart strings, explain it as risk management and they might start to see the value




  • For a guy:

    You’re not going to do anything well yourself except a buzz. And even then, there’s a learning curve.

    If you’re trying to keep it long, you’re going to fuck it up.

    For medium length, there used to be an “as seen on tv” product that was basically a shop vac that pulls hair into it, and cuts it a uniform length. I don’t know if they even sell them anymore, but that would be your only option.

    If you just don’t care, start buzzing it. Do it often, like buzz today, and then buzz again after taking a shower. You’re going to miss spots and a shower in between makes the hair stand up different and easier to make it uniform

    As you get better you can start doing it every two weeks or whatever, but at first do it really often to make sure you’re not leaving patches you can’t see.







  • What?

    The OP is asking if he can contact her family to ask why she doesn’t reply quickly enough…

    If her family doesn’t care enough to investigate why she’s not replying to them, then they’re not going to care after OP contacts.

    If they care enough that they would contact when OP asks…

    Then they would have already reached out to their own daughter/sibling/whatever if she wasn’t responding to them…

    Meaning the woman isn’t self-isolating, or her family is already trying to engage with her.

    A friend that moved away two years ago their daughter isn’t texting back and is t meeting up when possible…

    Probably just isn’t an important part of this woman’s life.

    And at some point OP has to accept that, unless they’re a stalker.


  • So she still lives where all your mutual friends live…

    Where her family lives…

    Let them handle it.

    Rest is also mostly an invention in your side, but not believing at face value someone somebody said on the internet is generally a good practice.

    Buddy…

    You keep making “typos” that completely change the meaning of what you type or just make no sense.

    Just leave the woman who clearly doesn’t want to interact with you alone.

    Although I’m sure you’ll ignore every response that’s not:

    Only you can save her! Do anything possible to talk to her no matter how many times she says she doesn’t want to talk to you. Shell appreciate it after you save her! You know her needs more than her!


  • Her moving to another country and not talking to you or your common friends doesn’t mean she’s “self isolating”. No single friend group is everyone’s life. Especially since it’s been two years since she left your country…

    Going to her family would be creepy as fuck.

    And honestly it feels like you have more motivations than just friendship here. And she’s been trying to let you down gently for over two years now…

    Like if “reconnect” means a text, go for it. But it sounds like you want someone to tell you it’s ok to contact her fucking family that you don’t know to complain she doesn’t text back immediately.

    That’s dangerously close to stalker shit, and they will always present a narrative similar to yours and use that for justification of inappropriate actions.