Does Lemmy or PieFed have anything similar to the Reddit R4R communities who want to connect people in a local area for friendship? And are there anything like the dating subreddits? Or even the cheater ones? Or like marriedbutchatting?
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No. Thank god.
People are awful enough about politics and their hobbies. When you add sex to the mix they get even more insane and nasty.
I was a part of some dating subreddits years ago and they was so much crazy drama and mods were would trade sexual favors for subreddit influence. There was also a lot of doxxing and other crazy stuff.
That always happens when things scale up, be it Facebook or Twitter. It starts out small and niche with a few geeky people who know and care about the tech, but when it becomes more popular, you get a much broader audience with broader opinions, and the anonymity provided by the service brings the assholes and bullies out, and when truly popular, even those just interested in being seen and promoting whatever they’re selling.
The geeky people who care about tech usually are the assholes and the bullies who are angry the ‘normies’ are using their tech that they made for themselves and that they can’t live in a weird bubble of their misguided and idealistic beliefs.
early reddit was dominated my far right libertarian techies who think free speech should be absolute and taxation was theft. It was also incredibly misogynistic and racist and dominated by 20/30 something white brogrammers making lots of rape jokes.
Sort of like how fediverse is now, except it’s far left techies who think rent is theft and who become hostile and ballistic towards anyone who doesn’t share in the ‘purity’ of their beliefs and think anyone who isn’t part of their queer utopia vision deserves to be subjected to violence until they agree with them.
I agree with you about reddit, but you’re really making the fedi sound a lot cooler than it actually is.
A very bleak view, but I can see how that might be right, given what is happening in the US, seemingly spurned on by Silicon Valley social media techies pushing for some sort of neo-Nazi utopia, not always out of ideology, but pure commercial greed, because feeding conflict and controversy is good for the engagement, just as TV trashy “reality TV” shows have skewed heavily towards scripted bitchy clashes on dating, cooking, renovation and everything else which they could easily control, but purposefully select candidates to create clashes, and choose a villain who will only be presented in a bad light because some people love having someone to hate.
Also reminds me of the whole extreme misogynistic Incel movement that’s come out of the gamer community, detached from the real world and actual women, epitomised by people like Andrew Tate who obsess bad analogies to a 1990s sci-fi to make them sound smart.
Not to my knowledge. Lemmy/Piefed/etc might be a wee bit small to justify groups like that, but you can always make your own community!
