• andros_rex@lemmy.worldOP
    38·
    1 day ago

    Isn’t social shaming “action”?

    Maybe when someone posts that “blacked” meme, of Piper Perri surrounded by five men, point out 1) that the image is racist as shit, and 2) that Piper Perri’s boyfriend killed her baby, and that comments joking about this are common on her videos and discussions about her?

    My first year teaching, we played “hangman” and the kids came up with their own words (I was stupid to allow this). One of them chose “Pornhub.” Maybe talking about jerking it should be something that isn’t so normalized that kids feel comfortable doing that?

    You could also report porn that is suspicious in provenance? Ask your bros, if they bring up a porn star what they think about this issues?

    Advocating for social change in the way we talk about these things isn’t “virtue signaling.”

    • TheLeadenSea@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
      61·
      1 day ago

      Just to address one of your points, since you made several: What’s wrong with talking about masturbation? It’s something most people do and should not be shameful; if anything it should be more normalised.

          • andros_rex@lemmy.worldOP
            2·
            20 hours ago

            Porn does not equal masturbation. And talking about masturbation in a beginning of the year ice breaker activity is not appropriate anyway.

            I don’t understand the conflation here. I had said nothing about masturbation, which is healthy and fine. It’s problematic however, that 15 year olds are exposed to hard core BDSM shit with no explanation that while yes, some women do like it if you hit or choke them, those are not part and parcel of normal sex and should be carefully negotiated.

            There’s been a huge uptick in kids choking each other, because they see it in porn. Choking is something that a lot of actual BDSM dungeons ban because it is that unsafe.

    • fipto@lemmy.world
      2·
      23 hours ago

      you’re asking the right questions. unfortunately a lot of people are so porn-brained that they have to silence anyone who dares ask a question that might make their peepees go soft.

      so many people would rather look the other way and ignore harm to women and children because it benefits them to not think about it.