Long story short I have never been successful in dating in any shape or form and it’s starting to really affect my everyday life. I have been in therapy for over 7 years (recently quit) to no avail. I am already on antidepressants which thankfully dampens my libido a bit but I now I want it all the way gone.
So anyway, should I tell my family about this? Nothing will really change if I do, but a part of me is telling they ought to know, you know? But I am not sure if I want to.
It’s bit a of a personal rabbit hole to get into here in Lemmy. But let’s just say it’s more than just being alone.
I am not lonely, though. I am quite socially active. I have a ton of hobbies (I dance, I climb, I golf, I skateboard, I also go to the gym ALOT, I am also part of a board of a social club) I just don’t want to be attracted to women anymore, basically.
Mostly CBT, but also “regualr” therapy. Three different psychologists.
To but it blankly I am still a virgin. And I feel unlovable. Whether successful or not successful at this point. I feel like I don’t want to have any sort of relationship anymore because I feel like it just won’t give me any salvation.
I get it, it seems like it will never change, but it will. I have a neighbor, a life-long bachelor, met his wife in his late 50s. She had 9 grown kids, and a zillion grandkids. He went from being alone to being part of a tribe, just when he thought his life was setting. That might be more than you’re looking for, but it illustrates the point.
Your life is going to take a series of turns that you can’t predict. Don’t do anything permanent that will limit your future.
Not a doctor, but wouldn’t the procedure also affect your ability to do your hobbies and social activities due to hormones being affected, like muscle loss or whatever? I imagine that will even worsen your situation if it affects other aspects of your life as well.