Seriously you read about people who die young, and people always pretend to care after they are already dead like “omg, this is so sad, they could’ve acomplished so much, he had a bright future ahead of him! wHaT a tRaGeDy, iF oNlY wE cOuLd’vE FoRSeEn tHiS”…

why didn’t y’all do anything while they were still alive? hypocrites…

  • fizzle@quokk.auEnglish
    27·
    2 days ago

    It’s nice to say nice things about people who’ve passed away.

    Like if someone in their 20s passes away, and you’re at their wake after the funeral, you’re not going to say “well I kind of always just tolerated him but he was never going to amount to much and I didn’t really like him”.

    • Apytele@sh.itjust.works
      163·
      2 days ago

      Idk when my brother shot himself I would gladly have told the whole church about the time he was swerving while drunk driving and laughing at me for being scared at like 13 years old or the time he held me over the edge of a cliff. The pastor took me for a walk and let me rant at him instead. Great dude actually he was a dead ringer for Fred Rogers in appearance, personality, and profession.

      • fizzle@quokk.auEnglish
        13·
        2 days ago

        Sure but both you and that pastor clearly understand why saying that to the whole church would not have served any purpose and made you look like an asshole, right?

        • Apytele@sh.itjust.works
          89·
          2 days ago

          I thought that was the obvious subtext of the statement but apparently did not adequately account for variations in reading comprehension.

          • fizzle@quokk.auEnglish
            1·
            1 day ago

            LOL. No is not that obvious.

            Me: “Saying mean things about dead people makes you an asshole”

            You: “Yeah well my dead brother was an asshole”

            Comprehension indeed.

            • Apytele@sh.itjust.works
              2·
              1 day ago

              It’s nice to say things about people who have passed away

              eh some people are abusive assholes who deserve to be remembered for it but sometimes a positive adult authority figure can help you process it in a healthier and more socially acceptable way that doesn’t piss the rest of the family off so you can make the informed decision to cut them all off as an adult after they’re done paying for your college. Eventually someone will have to step up and be the family asshole who says the ugly shit that needs to be said, but it’s not a responsibility that should be placed on a 16y/o.

          • Rhynoplaz@lemmy.world
            42·
            2 days ago

            Starting the comment with idk implies that you are starting a counter argument. As in, I don’t know if that’s true…

            • Apytele@sh.itjust.works
              33·
              1 day ago

              lol you really tryna introduce debate etiquette to the comments section when you they also answered “but you…clearly…right?” implying certainty that I did, which you they were correct about. And now you also somehow wanna continue after someone already told you you said they were right by asking if internet slang is a form of textual chironomia.

              • Rhynoplaz@lemmy.world
                11·
                1 day ago

                That wasn’t me. I’m a third party who read the conversation between the two of you and decided that your extra snark was uncalled for.

    • wonderingwanderer@sopuli.xyz
      2·
      1 day ago

      “He was gonna feel stuck at a dead-end job, burn out in a few years, get hooked on drugs or alcohol or netflix to distract him from the pain of a mediocre existence, and ultimately settle for a life that is much less than the one he dreamed of as a child, just like the rest of us.”

      “DON’T SAY THAT, HE HAD SO MUCH POTENTIAL!!!”

    • Fleppensteyn@sh.itjust.works
      21·
      1 day ago

      No, you’re not supposed to speak ill of the dead. Doesn’t mean you have to make shit up. I didn’t say a word at my father’s funeral.

      • fizzle@quokk.auEnglish
        3·
        23 hours ago

        I didn’t say it’s mandatory to say nice things about people who have died.

        I’m sorry your dad was shit.

    • Eheran@lemmy.world
      5·
      2 days ago

      Correct. Like what the fuck are people supposed to say? Talk about his search history?