I see a lot of commentary, especially on Lemmy and Reddit, about how awful children are and how wonderful adulthood without kids is. And if you don’t want them, more power to you.
On the other hand, many people are parents and love having children! I want to hear some of the positive stories. What about being a parent makes your life better? What’s your favorite thing about your kids?
3.5 months in with the first baby. It’s a massive commitment and we’re going through the trenches but holding that baby and getting a smile makes it all worth it.
I can’t wait to make memories with them and hopefully more babies cause I had a few siblings growing up and it was fun.
Flashbacks to the time when my abusive older brother used zipties to restain me for a few hours when my parents weren’t home because he found me to be “very annoying”… 👀
(I was like no older than 6 and he was like 11)
Ouch, sorry that happened. I think back to all unsupervised time I had and wonder how I’ll approach it.
My parents say we hold our baby too much but maybe it’ll help lower any chances of psychopathy.
Honestly, I think about my family and its gets weirder and more bizzare the more I think about it.
For context, most families in China during the era I was born in was suppsed to have only 1 child… but mom decide to violate policy…
So my older brother was originally supposed to be an only child if the policy was obeyed…
So this is what happens with most families: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Little_Emperor_Syndrome
I’m not sure if my brother really knew about One Child Policy at that age, but regardless, I think he got really jealous when after 5 years of being my parents sole focus… suddenly he learns that someone else is gonna be joining the family…
Like he’ll no longer have the sole attention…
I think that’s why he views me as an adversary.
I mean, I remember being extrememly clingy to my mom when I was 8-12… I think he must’ve gotten really jealous when he saw me cuddling with my mom…
like… dude why didn’t you cuddle with mom then? lmao
Literally I feel like as we got older we have this cold war to win mom’s favor in order to try to gain a larger share of the inheritance (we didn’t really have much back then, but now parents have more stuff so naturally more… envy of each other… of how much mom likes the other one).
I mean I get it… when I was like 12 or so… my mom joked about wanting a 3rd child and I was like: noooo pleasee don’t divert attention away from me
but mom can’t actually have another child due to the forced sterilization after the government found out she had given birth to me.