Look, if you’re the only one texting your so-called “friends” to check in, make plans, or just say what’s up, then let’s be real—they’re not actually your friends. Friendship is supposed to be a two-way street, but if you’re the only one driving, what’s even the point?

I’ve been there, where you feel like you’re always the one initiating every conversation. And it sucks. You start questioning if they even care or if they’re just keeping you around out of convenience. Spoiler alert: if they can’t be bothered to text you first every once in a while, they don’t.

People who actually value you will make an effort. They’ll check in, send a random meme, or even just say, “Hey, how’s life?” It doesn’t take much. But if you’re the only one holding the friendship together, maybe it’s time to let it go. Or keep these people at an arm’s length.