Mine has always been those who can’t make up their mind whether they want to bother with you or not. Like I have someone who, what felt like was pulling teeth almost, to confess whether they were interested in me or not. The best they could say was “I didn’t say I am but I also didn’t say I’m not either”. Like what the hell kind of response is that?
With things like that, I am a ‘yes’ or ‘no’ type of person. Don’t be dicking with my feelings like that. In fact, I would want to hear ‘no’ by this point because that would give me the release to pursue others.
Another peeve is lack of building. I’m huge on building. Pry into my world and I’ll pry into yours, lets learn eachother as much as we can. We can’t learn anything if the conversation is always short-strung by one-wording eachother to death.
basically how gender-war most dating has become.
before social media i never really dealt with women or dated women who were did the whole ‘you are a man, i am a woman’ bullshit. but now it’s like all i ever deal with and since i am not willing to basically pay women to date me I don’t really date anymore, since every woman in my city i meet has decided she has a price tag to date her and any man that isn’t spending $1000s on her ‘doesn’t value her’, and they all expect you to be a millionaire.
it’s so transactional, it’s gross.
People not knowing when to use ‘is’ and ‘are’ in English.
For reals, though? Mostly energy put into conversations, who spends the effort to initiate topics, and whether someone actually has hobbies other than just watching TV.
Sounds like you’re annoyed that other versions of English exist. AAVE is valid
If you have to ask, that’s your answer. People prioritize and make time for whatever is important to them. It sounds like you were something to do if there was nothing better to do.
or the other person was unsure and didn’t want to commit.
Then say so.
Lack of building?
I would want to hear ‘no’ by this point because that would give me the release to pursue others.
If they haven’t locked you down, you owe them nothing. Be direct.
If they were worth waiting for, they would give you a straight answer.
“I’m interested in you, but you’ve been lukewarm about this whole thing. Whenever you make up your mind, you know where to find me, but I can’t spend my life waiting for you to make a move.”
that is a solid answer




