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Cake day: 2023年6月16日

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  • Maybe. It would entirely depend on my level of comfort with the other person, and their personality.

    I’ve had wealthier friends, who I did not have a sexual relationship with, pay for my share of a hotel room for a convention. A different one treated me out to a (cheap for a concert, but not cheap for me) concert. I had known those friends for at least a year in both of those cases and had no worries about them or their personalities.

    As another commentor said, what happens if you have a falling out while you’re over there?

    Also, depending on your relationship, and the personality of the person paying, they could use this as a form of control. They could effectively treat this as entirely their vacation, and you’re just the human sex toy they brought along who’s going to stay in the room the whole time until they want your “services”. Or you’re just the trophy boytoy to hang off her arm and look pretty. You wouldn’t have much room to push back on it.

    Or this could just be someone living in a different income bracket to you trying to do something nice for you that isn’t a big expense for them. I personally think that’s less likely with a trip to the Maldives, but it’s not impossible.

    Or this could be them trying to turn the FWB situation into something more serious.

    As with most things in relationships, even FWB, it would probably be worth talking with them. “Hey, I’m happy that you’d do this for me, but I’ve never done something like this before. Is there anything you’re looking for from me as your plus one?”





  • Somewhere in the distance, you hear a Mariah Carey. Check the doors again. Locked. Good. Safe.

    Louder. Closer. Maybe the neighbors? Blinds closed already. Won’t see movement through the windows. Wait! Lights. Turn them off? Risky. It could see the change. Sounds like it’s at the end of the street. Risky. Still may be time. Risk it? Don’t?

    Crashing noise. The “song” rises to a frenzied pitch. Screams. Not yours. Quick! While it’s busy. Lights off. Safer. Safe enough?

    Closer now. “Song”. Disgusting mockery of humanity, cheer. Clawing at the edges of your sanity.

    Sudden quiet. Blessed silence. Over? No. Muffled crunch of “footsteps” in snow. Close enough to hear. Safe enough?

    A thump. Against a door. Your door? No. Close.

    I don’t want a lot for Christmas…

    Scratching. Nails against glass. Not your window. Safe enough?

    This is all I’m asking for…

    Sudden cachophony. What did it do? No. Inside. It’s here. But no. Outside. Continues.“Song”. More noise. Here! Inside!

    A duet! Not safe enough.



  • Roughly translated from management speak: We’ll need to come back to this specific aspect of the discussion on its pwn later, so we can more directly focus on this one part.

    Could be blowing smoke to get someone stuck on something to let go so the meeting can move on, or a legitimate “this part deserves its own dedicated discussion”.

    There’s a decent bit of good “steering” of groups and discussions that comes out of management speak, but the word choice and phrasing makes it needlessly opaque, and very “fellow kids”.

    Sometimes the opaqueness can be intentional too, to avoid making someone feel like their idea has been dismissed, or to slow down somebody while they parse what was just said so they can’t keep rapid fire talking and dominating the conversation.


  • I’ll go get my walker. Gen 4 was a big dissapointment to me (outside of the physical/special split) and where I stopped keeping up with the new releases. The plot didn’t grip me, but I also never picked up Platinum. Maybe that one somehow makes it better.

    In my entirely objectively right opinion, Gen 2 had the best “world”/“setting” and Gen 3 had the best “mysteries”/“secrets” and postgame with Emerald. Someone deserves to be jailed for leaving the Battle Frontier out of ORAS.

    I tried to love Soul Silver, after all the many hours I put into GSC, but never finished it. I’ve also tried Black and White, BW2, XY, and ORAS. A good amount of the “gold standard” rebalance/QoL hacks too (Drayano is the GOAT). It just doesn’t keep me like it used to. Get at most 3 or 4 gyms in and just lose interest.




  • That’s fucking terrible.

    Unfortunately in my roughly a decade in IT, I’ve only seen a vendor failing to deliver a core feature tank a contract once. It’s completely fucking absurd how many systems/softwares/products are in use because contracts were signed based off specific feature promises, that then were never completed.

    Does this shit happen in other industries? I have a hard time imagining some company signing a contract for delivery trucks that for instance, ran on diesel, the truck manufacturer saying they didn’t have those yet but would by time of delivery, delivering gas trucks anyway, and the company that ordered them going “Well I guess we’ll just suck it up. No need to have legal get a chunk of our money back. No need to stop doing business with that truck manufacturer. We’ll just make the fleet mechanics retrofit them with no extra budget, time, or headcount. Let’s go do lines in the executive bathroom.”

    But that’s what seems to happen with software products all the fucking time.





  • I would want to hear ‘no’ by this point because that would give me the release to pursue others.

    If they haven’t locked you down, you owe them nothing. Be direct.

    If they were worth waiting for, they would give you a straight answer.

    “I’m interested in you, but you’ve been lukewarm about this whole thing. Whenever you make up your mind, you know where to find me, but I can’t spend my life waiting for you to make a move.”


  • The full list really isn’t as bad as I expected.

    BBC is up there, apnews, the guardian.

    As another comment has said, NPR is audio content, and nearly all of their podcasts are available through podcast apps directly. And PBS isn’t a news site, so of course it doesn’t show up.

    Also worth remembering that CNN was pretty widely considered to be balanced until around a decade ago. I’m sure there’s a bunch of older people still operating from that.