I read some people who vent on their posts or talk about problems they face in life and the replies they get is, no you are the problem, fuck you.
On Reddit, the only thing that is close to this is when women complain about their boyfriends, they got told to leave them, whatever is her complaint about.
Any explanation?
Disclaimer: I am not talking about my own experiences here, but rather what I read in other posts, my observations could be wrong.
Because most people’s problems are ultimate their own responsibility. Most of us can’t change the circumstances around us, but we can change ourselves.
This is assuming the person wants to fix the issue. Many people… don’t. Their misery is their identity. Personally I’ve had plenty of relationships in my life with people like that. I ended up leaving them, and they thought I was a selfish asshole for not fixing their issues for them, because they believed it was my job to ‘adult’ for them. And frankly, some people are happy to have relationships like that, where the other person is their ‘child’ they take care of.
Also it’s very different if say you have a car accident. A random occurrence… than if you keep getting into car accidents. That’s a pattern. I’ve had one car accident. But people who have many accidents… it’s because they are bad drivers. I once dated a woman who has 6 car accidents in 5 years. She was a terrifyingly bad driver, but in her mind it was everyone else who was the bad drivers because they were ‘in her way’. and when i drove she would scream at me for being ‘a pussy’ because I drove safely.