I (23M) am a broke online college student living with my parents. I have an abusive brother (25M) who also lives under the same roof.

My brother is a narcissist. He believes that he is the most important person in the universe. Boundaries and respect do not matter to him. He will hijack every conversation into being either constant self-aggrandizing or personal attacks and force me to repeat it back to him. He is physically violent when provoked and he has killed multiple animals by beating them to death with his bare hands. Unfortunately, he seems to consider “no” to be a provocation. He searches through all my stuff without permission and I’ve had to start being careful about what things I leave lying around.

My parents do not care about this. My father doesn’t because he’s the OG narcissist who passed it down to my brother and actively cheers for my suffering, and my mother doesn’t because she is the enabler who chose to stay married to my father and told me I had to suffer the abuse endlessly like she does.

I don’t have any irl friends because I have medical conditions that make it difficult for me to be outside on my own for extended periods of time. I also can’t drive because of that. It sucks. This isn’t to say it’s impossible for me to go out, but it’s hard and kind of risky (my condition can cause me to faint).

I have constantly been told to give up on being treated like a human being, but I have begun to recognize that my family is feeding me false narratives of hopelessness to keep me complacent and submissive. I surely have power, but my internalization of their narratives is obscuring the ways to exercise it.

What would you do in such a situation, or if you have been in a similar situation, what did you do?

EDIT: I live in the U.S.

  • Retro_unlimited@lemmy.world
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    23 hours ago

    I had a narcissist in my life. I watched a ton of YouTube videos about how to deal with the situation. I went no contact with the person. I packed and move into my car for a few months. I found land and now live on bare land in an RV.

    It’s kind of depressing that this narcissist is holding my other family members away from me as leverage against me, but they can no longer spread lies about me since they have no contact with me.

    It’s still 1000x better life for me. Made tons of friends all around this new area in the past year here. Have work now, and things are just better.

    I feel that living the way I do also is the opposite is what the narcissist would say about me. (They said I was free loading off them, I was lazy, didn’t want to work, etc). Now that I’m doing all those things I truly reflect back and see the narcissist is the one that is lazy, etc. feels good to finally be away from that abuse.