Be it a personality quirk, something they’re wearing, or just the way they look. What makes them instantly hot?

  • ChexMax@lemmy.world
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    3 days ago

    A good wink. A guy can be medium attractive or not my type, but if they make a little joke and then give me individually a subtle wink, I’m smitten.

    Not talking about a compliment followed by a wink. A joke, and then they let me in on it with them with a wink.

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      2 days ago

      How do you feel if someone who is not medium attractive winks at you?

      Or if they just say something weird, like a joke you don’t appreciate, and wink at you?

      I guess there has to be some kind of established not-a-creepy-stranger before risking a wink becomes appropriate.

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        2 days ago

        Physically unattractive, but a good wink would still pique my interest, but it’s never happened to me. Winking is kind of rare. It’s like proof that they’re fast, clever, and confident, and that they desire a rapport with me.

        Yes, the wink has to be paired with something clever, or wise, or nice. Some kind of friendly banter. You’d have to be already attractive to wink out of the blue, but if you’re already attractive and you wink, I’d probably like that too. It’s conveying interest. It’s conspiratorial and playful.