I have this online female friend and we have been friends for almost 4 years now. We met in an online game. She’s the one who asked my social media ID so we can play together. And she seems to have done to a lot of people as well. So she was kinda collecting a lot of friends. Have seen people get nto her lobbies and say “Thank you so much for listening to me the other day,” “You are really a kind person” and so on. There was this one guy used to address her as his “bi*ch”. At this I thought they were a couple but apparently they met on the game and known eachother for only a few months and were just friends.
She used to text me first whenever she was about to play. And used to check on me if I hadn’t appeared on the game for a week or two.
Later we got close. I stopped gaming but she still plays other games. But after I got close, she stopped texting me first. Only would chat with me if I texted her first. I asked her why she never texts me about anything. She goes “Uhh I am not that type to text people first” “I never do that to anyone” “I think you’re just busy” and so on.
So all this weird behaviour had me thinking why she is doing all this? What are her motives? What kind of person is she?
I did ask her these questions many times but only got vague answers. She also never gives anything about her other online friends and usually becomes defensive when I bring them up in a conversation.
It really wasn’t the case at all, I can assure you that. I really don’t pursue people if they didn’t like me. I have confirmed with her many times, if I was bothering her and her answer was always no.
I want to all to think from my perspective. My assumption is she was collecting these friends and was liking all the attention they were giving her. She gate-keeping her friends to only herself and not letting us all be one group is kinda telling something I believe.
Who knows. Maybe. But for the love of god, don’t think if a women is talking to you it has to be out of romantic interest. Place yourself in her shoes. You’re talking to a guy that’s good at a game you like, so you team up. Great. You talk about your life ecc, like you would with a friend. Because he is your friend. Then your friend stops playing the game you liked and nonetheless reclaims that you spend time with him because, well, he’s infatuated with you and though you two had something going on without any evidence; completely misunderstanding your intentions and betraying your trust. Idk, I wouldn’t feel like hanging out with him anymore.
Just remember that there are male-female friendships and not everything needs to be romantic.
Have you ever suspected any of your male friends of doing any of this?
If a gaming friend started asking me about my intentions with other gaming friends that they don’t know, I’d be VERY creeped out by that. It sounds to me like you were looking for more than friends and got disappointed when you discovered that she just wants gaming partners.