I have this online female friend and we have been friends for almost 4 years now. We met in an online game. She’s the one who asked my social media ID so we can play together. And she seems to have done to a lot of people as well. So she was kinda collecting a lot of friends. Have seen people get nto her lobbies and say “Thank you so much for listening to me the other day,” “You are really a kind person” and so on. There was this one guy used to address her as his “bi*ch”. At this I thought they were a couple but apparently they met on the game and known eachother for only a few months and were just friends.
She used to text me first whenever she was about to play. And used to check on me if I hadn’t appeared on the game for a week or two.
Later we got close. I stopped gaming but she still plays other games. But after I got close, she stopped texting me first. Only would chat with me if I texted her first. I asked her why she never texts me about anything. She goes “Uhh I am not that type to text people first” “I never do that to anyone” “I think you’re just busy” and so on.
So all this weird behaviour had me thinking why she is doing all this? What are her motives? What kind of person is she?
I did ask her these questions many times but only got vague answers. She also never gives anything about her other online friends and usually becomes defensive when I bring them up in a conversation.
Kinda just seems like she likes to play games with people and so had a list of people she could contact to play. You used to be a reliable candidate, and now you’re not.
I don’t know what you envision as “getting close,” but is it possible she didn’t view y’all as being close?
I’m guessing y’all have asymmetrical goals and expectations. She realized this and adapted.
Honestly this is not the case. I have been very disconnected for the 1st year or so meeting her. Our texts spaced around hours or even days. We used to go back and forth sending delayed texts before the topics dies.
Later I have started being more active and she did the same. She was the one who said I have gotten close to her and not just my assumption.
Expectations wise, I was very clear from the start. But I am guessing she did had other expectations from how she entertained such expectations from her other friends.
Obviously you don’t know if that is the case or not. You are asking what is going on, and then denying every response that you don’t like.
She wasn’t looking for an internet boyfriend, she was looking for friends to play video games with. You stopped playing. She isn’t being rude, she just isn’t inviting you to partake in a hobby she still enjoys but knows you don’t do anymore.
Funny, you don’t seem to mention what these very clear expectations are in your post anywhere. What were/are they?