I’m 31, my husband is 51, and lately I’ve been feeling some baby fever. For the record, kids aren’t a must for me, I’m genuinely happy with or without them, but I think it would be nice to experience that journey. My husband is hesitant, though. Even though he’s very healthy, active, and energetic, he feels like having a child in his 50s might be too late. He also already has a 27-year-old son, and he worries that the big age gap between siblings would feel strange.
I guess I’m just looking to hear what others think about this situation.
I’m biased. 42 when we had our first kids, twins.
Depends on your guy and your circumstances.
Being more settled (having more money) as an older parent is a huge advantage.
I had 6 months off work during our pregnancy just to do all the things (complex pregnancy). My partner hasn’t worked since she fell pregnant.
We had 2 au pairs for the first 6 months to help out.
I just generally have more dad time than other guys. For example, i almost always drop our kids at day care and pick them up after, on my e-bike. I very, very rarely see any other dads there. At fathers day afternoon tea there were me and 2 other dads…
We’ve recently made down payments on an apartment for each of them. They will be paid off by the time they’re ready for uni.
We’re not wealthy, just more settled in our 40s.
Other dads in their 20s might have more hair than me and I’m sure some dads are just cooler than me, but I dont think there’s any real risk my kids will be disadvantaged in any way.
Dude, that sounds wealthy beyond most people’s dreams.
Seriously, owning more than a single property is rich.
We’re really not.
We live in a regional area, so the math is different.
Bullshit. Most people are a paycheck from collapse and you’ve over here with maids, single income household, and enough disposable income to buy your kids APARTMENTS. Let me guess, after uni they will rent out said apartments and use that to fund their houses while being landlords?
You are so beyond out of touch with the common person.
Dads in their 20s are just much more likely to get divorced.