I’m 31, my husband is 51, and lately I’ve been feeling some baby fever. For the record, kids aren’t a must for me, I’m genuinely happy with or without them, but I think it would be nice to experience that journey. My husband is hesitant, though. Even though he’s very healthy, active, and energetic, he feels like having a child in his 50s might be too late. He also already has a 27-year-old son, and he worries that the big age gap between siblings would feel strange.
I guess I’m just looking to hear what others think about this situation.
I don’t think your issue is age, it’s more motivation. You may have some ‘baby fever’ but also so say you don’t care one way or another and your husband is at least mildly against. Those are the best reasons why you should not consider children. If you BOTH were really excited to have a child and willing to make whatever changes necessary to have that child, your current ages wouldn’t be a problem.
How is age not a problem? I went to school with a guy who’s parents were 65-ish when we were 14. He was completely alienated from the rest of us. When we talked about playstation games we liked, he just stood around awkwardly, because he only got wooden toys to play with. While my dad wasn’t super active either, i did see him run at least abd we did some stuff together.
LOL. Do you really think 65 year olds can’t ask their kids what they want to play with?
Parents of any age can be dickheads.
There are plenty of crunchy granola moms who only let their kids play with wooden toys, regardless of age. Yes, your parents’ generation does affect your upbringing, but it sounds like your buddy had unusual parents regardless of age.