32m here and ive been on dating apps for over 10 years and think they’ve gotten worse since the whole swiping algorithm. I always do max swipes daily on fb dating, tinder, and bumble with minimum to no success. Tinder being the worst of the three. Ik irl is better, I just am not good at it with social anxiety and overthinking. Anybody find what works on these apps if you’re an average looking man?
Seconding this advice.
I think also for me it helped to think of it as a long term effort. Trying to get into a relationship as fast as possible isn’t really realistic or healthy. Once I stopped trying to hard to pull everyone I was interested in, I felt a lot more comfortable being myself and just shooting my shot, if it didn’t hit or we didn’t vibe it was ok.
Definitely agree that it’s a skill, and the more you do it the more comfortable you’ll be. You’ve got this!