I really like watch porn videos of women saying very humilating and degrading things about me because I love feeling like I’m a loser, Inadequate and worthless.

But I don’t want tell my future wife or girlfriend that I’m into this because it’s so embarrassing. How do I get rid of this kink?

  • 姫男子@lemmy.caOPEnglish
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    1 day ago

    I have always felt that I’m a loser and very Inadequate. Because I’m 27 year old and I have never even been on a date and I got made fun of alot for my appearance throughout highschool. So I guess that why watching porn videos of hot women verbally humilating me and degrading is such a turn on for me.

    • Sine Nomen@lemmynsfw.com
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      22 hours ago

      Or maybe it’s really a normal healthy kink that you could be exploring further.

      I’d advise you to go to Fetlife, look for munches near you, go there and get the vibe of the people. Go several times because vibes can change from week to week.

      You should be able to learn there that the people there aren’t freaks but normal people. That what you’re feeling is normal and that you’re not the only one. And most importantly that you’re not an ugly loser but also a normal person.

      Don’t go there with the expectation of finding a sexual partner. These are supposed to be safe spaces where one can go to exchange feelings and knowledge. Also don’t go there with the expectation that everyone will be talking about sex and BDSM and fetishes all the time. Often enough they talk about all kinds of things.

      If you’re lucky your munch has some kind of way of onboarding new people. The organisers are the right people to talk to. They are usually very nice and not judgemental.