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Cake day: July 1st, 2023

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  • Echoing this: If you set out to finds someone directly, more often than not you’re going to have a bad time I think. The most organic way is through self-improvement and a certain inner-peace or contentment with being on your own. Combine this with getting involved in communities of ANY sort that you find comfort or passion in, from a pick-up sports league to DnD group to renaissance festival — whatever. Start finding community, and from there organic connection is bound to occur.

    But again, it’s not something you pursue directly but almost always by serendipitous, indirect means.

    For me, it was like a flip of the switch. The moment I started to focus on self-improvement and be content with being on my own was the moment I started to be invited to things; which then gave me the confidence to say, “yeah, sure I’ll go.” It was one of these times I met my partner, soul mate, of going on 2 decades.

    I’m very much an introvert, and my partner is extremely extroverted. She asked me out on our first date, actually lol.




  • I’d like to suggest they may be more complementary than strictly achieving the same, which seems like why most studies suggest trying to perform a mixture. Of course, something is better than nothing relative to your interest and limitations! (eg, arthritis, joint issues, preexisting conditions etc.)

    Speaking only for myself, I definitely feel the best mentally and physically when balancing the two. And if I happen to take a break from both, boy, does my mental state nose-dive within 2 weeks.




  • I feel like I’m you about two decades behind, so this concerns me lol. I’ve always been thin, always high metabolism, and generally have a ton of energy.

    However I will say: The first time I’ve experienced true, relentless fatigue was with raising a child lol. You just can’t turn your brain off and consistent, quality sleep tends to be a thing of the past. There’s just damage done when you get that much consistent sleep loss. You can’t just “catch up” without some damage being done, I think.

    My goals to age as best as I can (and know that I will inevitably fail at some point) is to remain pretty physically active especially in terms of aerobic exercise. I’ll stick with my whole foods plant-based diet that has worked well for me for going on 20 years now, and doing my best to lower my stress with hobbies and family, etc.