I mean… yeah? It’s not really much of a mischaracterization if it’s true. At one point you have to accept that the we’re the baddies as a US citizen.

I’m sorry you went through all this, it legit sounds like the whole situation broke you mentally, when things that are this high stress go on for that long, it can really fuck you up.

People rarely listen to good advice when the fun mistake is staring them in it face. The not dating at work thing isn’t for when things go right, (a lot of people get married having met at their job) it’s for when things go bad like this. You are trapped with them! Like you said, lesson learned, don’t keep beating yourself up.

Next time, and don’t let this scare you off of dating in general, communicate with your partner before that the idea of knocking up a partner is a genuine fear, set a clear boundary. Good on you for resisting getting back into the situation once you had been made truly uncomfortable.

DNC types get super cagey when you admit that Bill Clinton is a serial adulterer who was in an extreme power imbalance relationship with a woman in her 20’s.

I’m glad the party is willingly offering him up as a sacrifice to the republicans to get keep the Epstein probe going. Every time the GOP tries a burying tactic, they truss Bill up like a suckling pig, and I’m fine with that. Dude is and was a creep.

Oh man, it’s been a while. Without looking up the mod log to confirm, I think i was annoyed the person I was arguing with was bad at it. I probably said something very insulting for no good reason. I can tend to do that every now and again.

I don’t know if this was weirdly aggressive, I probably deserved this. I was banned also.

Wow, waited half day for that, that’s a little depressing.

It’s super fun, though! Especially when the other person actually has a personality and is willing to mix it up.

No,i just find you personally distasteful and don’t mind that you know it.

Agreed, the entire system of tipping the American way should be fucking illegal. Wait staff should earn a living wage. I think it’s way more complicated than that, and you see pushback from the owners and the servers, and any movements to change it haven’t had enough backing socially to change anything.

But that’s kinda how it works, you choose to engage with it by going to an establishment with enployees that rely on tips. I mean hell, most of the time if you have a bad experience it’s due to something the waiter can’t control. Kitchen issues, staffing levels, poorly handled rushes. Being gleeful about how little you tip because of how things have changed… just don’t go out. Avoid having a shitty experience and being a shitty experience for someone else.

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This is for you love! So, at least one of your interactions wasn’t shitty in your life ❤️.

At least that’s something, I doubt you do that cause I’ve already seen your justification. Honestly the person handing you drink after drink at the bar, wondering if they need to finally cut you off doesn’t care. I’m guessing they’re just happy to be rid of you. Eat alone isn’t advice I need to give you… is it?

The expensive part is big. Inflation on bar and restaurant drinks is real. Drinks where I am are a minimum of 15 usd with 20-25 not being outside the realm of possibility. I started tipping 2 dollars a drink a few years ago at bars. But I’m not getting a dozen drinks, or drinking every day at bars, even every weekend.

I can see these tips really adding up if you do this a lot, especially restaurants where two people + tip for a couple that gets two drinks each is 120-150 usd all day. Wages aren’t exactly catching up to any of that.

Game 101? Wow, every comment worse “social pressure doesn’t work on me” you aren’t tipping Batman, you aren’t tipping Joker, you’re just a jerk who should be eating at home.

You should honestly stop going out at all, the person who is broken post covid is you. You’re taking it out on random wait staff you are choosing to patronize. Make your food yourself, drink your drinks at home, then the only person you’re making miserable is the person in the mirror.

There’s been an unbalancing of top down power, especially in venture capital, we will pay for these decisions down the line.

Freedom isn’t free, it costs a buck 0’five

That’s perfect for higher ups. They don’t care if what you release has bugs as long as you work on them when they pop up, they consider that part of your job. They want a result quickly and will accept 85% if it moves the needle forward.

These people don’t care about technical debt, they don’t care about exploits until it happens to them, then it’s how bad and how long to fix. No one cares about doxxes anymore, it’s just the cost of doing business. Like recalls.

This is perfect for CEOs and billionaires because they don’t care how something is done at a 35,000 foot view, they just want it now. AI is a nightmare of exploits that haven’t even begun to be discovered yet. Things that will be easily exploitable, especially by other algorithms.

Coders are just as effected by supply and demand, and the demand is for AI products.

He doesn’t need to imo, these things have plenty of inertia right now. It wouldn’t take a lot to get Americans fighting even harder against eachother than we are now even.

I think the only reason states have not truly waged war on each other is that we are part of a union. That’s just my opinion, but many states would simply begin to fail without the feds redistributing wages from states that have good industry and gdp.

Once they don’t get, they will start to try to take, and that fire would spread faster than it could be put out. Again all imo. But us Americans are “a bit shit” to eachother already, to borrow a British phrase.