Been homeless over 6 years. My social services agency, high turnover. Being female , almost all my case managers have been female, standard practice.

Out of 17 case managers, only 2 have been male. Female cms: detailed, logical, responsive, solution oriented, clear effective communication. Male cms, the opposite.

I try to communicate clearly, effectively, which is easy cuz autism, and the 2 male cms, i get constant 2nd guessing, passive-aggressive defensiveness. Get impression they’re automatically assuming I don’t think clearly, don’t know what I’m saying. It’s weird, and I can’t figure out why.

I know not all men are the same. I’m not like all women. Have I just been unlucky with these 2 cms, or is there a gender aspect to this I’m not understanding? I’d like to learn.

  • SharkEatingBreakfast@sopuli.xyz
    1117·
    6 months ago

    Please be aware that Lemmy is, more often than not, extremely hostile and/or defensive towards female-centric issues or experiences, regardless of validity.

    Edit: These downvotes tell me that folks are denying that this is an issue. Maybe y’all should ask / listen to women about what their experience has been discussing female-centric topics on Lemmy.

    • NaClKnight@kbin.run
      3·
      6 months ago

      This makes sense considering who is here, but I would be very interested to see a Lemmy/kbin demographics survey.

      • SharkEatingBreakfast@sopuli.xyz
        4·
        6 months ago

        Most of the female-centric Lemmy communities are now abandoned. I’m sure the hostility did not help that. Don’t blame them. I’d never suggest Lemmy as a space for women.

        • NaClKnight@kbin.run
          32·
          6 months ago

          Damn, that’s fucking awful. What female-centric communities existed? I know what ones my wife follows on Reddit but not their analogues here

          Edit: Nevermind. The Reddit communities i found with analogues here are dead AF. Even the big pooular stereotypical topics like Fashion, cooking, weight loss, wedding planning, cozy games, skincare, hair styles, TV shows, romance books, dating, are all dead here.

          Goddam, Lemmy users literally scared all the women away.

          A real life example of “Stop scaring the hoes”

          I am increasingly unable to take this place seriously.

          • tkc@feddit.uk
            3·
            6 months ago

            “Stop scaring the hoes”

            Come on man, do you think referring to woman as hoes is gonna help 😂

            • NaClKnight@kbin.run
              1·
              6 months ago

              “Scaring the hoes” is a catch all term for when the things men enjoy in private or with other men create environments that are inhospitable to women.

              I’ve always heard it in a comedic context, said with nearly the same tone as when Eustace berates Courage the Cowardly Dog.

          • SharkEatingBreakfast@sopuli.xyz
            3·
            6 months ago

            TwoXChromosome is also dead. Witchy-type instances are abandoned, too. It’s so sad, because I’ve had the most lively and supportive conversations in those places.

            There is a grave problem with the Lemmy ecosystem system if women do not feel safe / comfortable using it.