I see it as different things, you can fall for one gender, you can feel sexual attractive for another but most of the time do they sync. So that made also sense why some had crushes on the gender they wouldn’t be together with.
It all clicked when I got to know a girl who could fall in love with men and women but couldn’t enjoy having sex with guys even tho she tried to really liked it with the guys she fell for. And that also made me understand what pan really was because I thought it was just bi with extra steps but when gender identity, gender romance and gender sexually was all different things then it all made sense.
I see it as different things, you can fall for one gender, you can feel sexual attractive for another but most of the time do they sync. So that made also sense why some had crushes on the gender they wouldn’t be together with.
It all clicked when I got to know a girl who could fall in love with men and women but couldn’t enjoy having sex with guys even tho she tried to really liked it with the guys she fell for. And that also made me understand what pan really was because I thought it was just bi with extra steps but when gender identity, gender romance and gender sexually was all different things then it all made sense.