Inspired by a comment in another thread, what was the path you took over your life, through the various online social media we’ve had?
By way of example, I started in Yahoo chatrooms, to a little bit of Myspace and private forums, to ICQ and IRC, to no online socials for awhile, to facebook, to 4chan, to reddit, ending up here on lemmy.
I’ve never used twitter, insta, tiktok, etc for any length of time.
If you’d like, your native language and a rough estimate of your age can be included for additional context.
I started with TALK on BITNET. Top that!
My start was all the way back when WebTV was around in 1996. I was using IRC-like chat rooms provided by Talk City. There, we had fun trivia games, some friendly chatter and vice versa.
Then, I moved on to MSN Chat sometime in the early 2000s. I would make my home there until the day MSN decided to make MSN Chats subscription based sometime around 2004 and I ended up leaving. These chat rooms were where I had some of my earliest periods roleplaying.
From there I would go to MySpace and I stayed there for quite a bit of time, felt like maybe 5 or so years before I just gradually lost interest. By that point in the middle, when Facebook got out of its college-only phase, I joined about a couple years after that in what felt like 2008-ish.
In 2007 also, I was in DeviantArt chat rooms and I was there up until 2014. I would join Gaia Online too in 2007 until 2016.
I didn’t start using things like Reddit until mid-2010s. I got into Second Life by 2013. Didn’t use Twitter until much later and left long before Musk even got it.
Oh and somewhere around my ventures of the 2010s, I did in fact hop into mIRC servers for a bit.
And finally by about 2023, I jumped into the Fediverse for the first time via Lemmy, discarding Reddit for good (not that it mattered because I kept getting shadow-banned anyways). I do have a TikTok but it’s only for associating with a friend on there. I’ve never regularly used AOL or Yahoo!'s chat rooms. I never had ICQ but I did have AIM, MSN and Yahoo!'s respective messengers. I’ve gotten into Instagram for a cup of coffee before bowing out like a couple days.
So, these days, all I use now is PieFed, Facebook, Second Life and Discord (if one can even call it social media).
I was a big Hitchiker’s Guide to the Galaxy fan in the 1990s, so I really started with h2g2. For those who don’t remember, it was an early attempt to make a crowdsourced online encyclopedia, but unlike Wikipedia, a given page could only be edited by its original creator or admins. I learned quite a bit of HTML from there.
Every page on h2g2 had an attached comment section, and because anybody could make a page, most of us used it primarily as a message board. There was a lot of roleplaying.
From there I branched out into forums. The big one I posted on was TotalGames.net, the joint forum for a bunch of video game magazines, because I read Cube in secondary school and they regularly posted stuff from it to get more people to join. One of the regular members, Android18a, set up her own website at SilentDream.co.uk and had an attached forum which had six, maybe seven posters. That was a nice, intimate community, and we broke the rules of the forum software by regularly posting porn.
I signed up to a few other forums but never stayed long. In college, I joined TVTropes and actively contributed for a bit over 20 years; I just stopped this week because the new owners seem intent on turning it into another Wikia. TVTropes’ forum software is quite good, really solid, and the community is probably the most thoughtful, rational group I’ve ever encountered online (except for that one moderator. If you’re a regular on the TVTropes forum, you know the one).
I was almost one of the first people in Ireland to join Facebook. During college, I did a work placement where I shared a house with two American girls (also a Polish boy, a Romanian girl, and an Irish girl who moved out because she didn’t get along with anybody). The Yanks told me about this great website called Facebook, which I had also seen mentioned on College Humor a lot. It seemed great, but I kept saying “Oh, I’ll join tomorrow” until everybody else was on it, at which point I decided not to join it because it was too popular (yeah). That turned out to be the right decision.
I made a Twitter account after college because I was a fan of Channel Awesome and they all seemed to be on it, and so was apparently every other famous person. I could keep up with Twitter somewhat for a few years because I was unemployed and had little else to do, but actually keeping up with that site is a full-time job. I tried getting back into it on and off, and eventually deleted my account just before COVID when I figured out I have clinical depression and just reading Twitter aggravates it.
I started using Reddit at some point and I liked it, but stepped back when I realised it was addictive and toxic. I look in once in a while, and every time I do, it seems to be getting worse.
Then when Elon Musk took over Twitter, I started hearing about this thing called Mastodon. I made myself an account which I use daily, but I learned the lesson from Twitter not to bother trying to keep on top of everything. Mastodon led me to Lemmy, which led me to kbin, which is now mbin, which is where this account lives.
I also have a Discord account, but Discord confuses and overwhelms me.
Oh, and I also used UseNet a little bit, but its heyday was long past by the time I got online.
ICQ †
StudiVZ †
Facebook †
4chan †
WhatsApp †
Reddit †
Feddit
I did post a video to Instagram once that got several million views, but that was on my employer’s account.
I’m an elder millennial German/.
Reddit
LemmyIRC
ICQ
MSN messenger
there was a site where you could post 2 choice questions that people could answer and comment on, I forget the name but I used that a lot
Facebook
Digg
Reddit
Lemmy… I had a Lemm.ee account and that died. Had a lemmynsfw account and that died. Apparently lemmy.ml has a bad reputation. Instances defederate from each other. I just want to see memes without the drama. Don’t know where to post to get more than a handful of people to see my post. I’m rapidly losing interest in the fediverse.
Back to books, podcasts and RSS… Social media has nothing worthwhile for me.
A good rule for picking an instance is to find one with very few blocked instances and a big number of communities. You see almost everything and It’s less likely to be deferated/disappear because it has a lot of content. Lemmy.zip is a good example. Lemme.ee was just unfortunate.
AIM IRC MSN chat rooms TOTSE Livejournal MySpace (barely) Facebook (barely) 4chan Reddit Twitter Mastodon Lemmy
- CompuServe Chat
- Dialup Bulletin Board
- USENET
- Lemmy
Facebook was a horrible mistake. I jumped off when I realized I didn’t want to associate with the people there.
Jumped off Reddit when my app was blocked.
Edit: mid-50’s English speaker (well, American English, if that still counts), also remembered that there was a dialup bulletin board back in the day.
Usenet then Slashdot and a forum on a website that no longer exists.
Once I got Internet at home, there were a few online chatrooms that were web based, but were basically IRC. It looks like one of those sites still exists, but if it’s the same one I used (and Yahoo used as a proxy) it’s not at the URL I used it at. Also either I’ve forgotten my details or I’ve been deleted (or it’s a knock-off).
Then Digg, Reddit, Twitter and now the Fediverse.
Oh and throw Discord in there too somewhere towards the latter end.
Dishonourable mentions: MyYearbook and Tagged.com. The former was a bit like old-school MySpace, but it became a soulless dating site called MeetMe with none of the fun Flash games and chat. Tagged was basically a (surprisingly smut-free) user avatar trading site. Attractive people’s pictures (usually women) could end up worth ridiculous sums of fake money. Like vigintillions of dollars kinds of ridiculous.
Now it seems that both are part of the same company, at least based on how the websites for MeetMe and Tagged look. Very glad I’m out of there.
AIM —> Reddit —> lemmy
Usenet (and still there), mailing lists (hooray for any that use schleuder), a bit of IRC (though I was never one for quick fire & forget statements, today I’m good with Signal/Molly/Gurk and XMPP; Matrix never appealed to me), lot’s of Forums (mostly related to my favourite games at the times), some twitter (though I was never really comfortable with the hustle to gain more visibility through large follower numbers), switched over to identi.ca (and eventually many different ActivityPub servers, currently one Akkoma and one Lemmy; not interested in PixelFed, though it helps I dislike the dev’s attitude; PeerTube could be interesting as a consumer, but the UX still feels atrocious; I tend to leave my name/handle behind when switching, I’ll inform some people important to me, but I am quite happy not having to maintain friendships and a reputation, gotta do that in meatspace, and I find it taxing even there). Lurked 4chan a couple years, but was never comfortable engaging, too much “fake” being a horrible person. Was relatively active on reddit, but ever since the redesign I felt it was too cumbersome to use (yes, old., I know, but who wants to rely on a legacy version being available?), plus their corporate decisions were pissing me off more and more (Yeah, I’m a pretty stout software freedom person, down to using libreboot & canoeboot, though I no longer wish to associate myself with the FSF, given their tone-deaf handling of the whole RMS situation), so, yeah, eventually lemmy. I’m more quiet than I used to be, getting older, I suppose, but I was also never that into anything “social” in the first place (I’m an Aspie, who’d have thunk?), so I mostly lurk and only post when I feel I can actually contribute something meaningful.
IM-based: AIM+MSN+etc… -> IRC -> Google Talk -> SMS -> (nothing for many years) -> Slack (for work)
Web-Based: forums (esp. GMC) -> Digg -> reddit (mainly) + HN (sometimes) -> kbin -> lemmy
Not all of these are social media sites, but this list is my social internet path
Bolt dot com & SciFi channel chatrooms
AIM & Yahoo chatrooms
ICQ & IRC
Soulseek (I count it because I used to hang in the chatrooms quite a bit)
Eyeball chat, then followed friends to Camfrog chat, before both were enshittified
MySpace
Facebook and dabbling in Instagram
Reddit, left after Apollo went offline
Mastadon and dabbled in Snapchat
Threads
BlueSky, still here
Lemmy then Piefed, still here
Does talking to randoms on Kazaa count? Otherwise various forums, uboot, Facebook (shudder), Reddit, Lemmy.
What counts and what doesn’t is pretty fuzzy. I’m just including everything that could reasonably fit, just to keep it simple.
yahoo chat
myspace
elfpack
4chan
facebook
Spiceworks
9gag
reddit
Lemmy







