Even then, there are 18 year olds I’ve met that have the maturity of a 25 year old and 25 year olds that just don’t seem to have a frontal lobe. Age is an important heuristic but certainly not the only important factor when you are thinking about emotional maturity and power dynamics in a relationship.
Not saying that this is always the case but it can be substance abuse related. Substances let the brain avoid confronting the “crises” that would otherwise result in psychosocial growth and development. When the person gets sober they have to pick up where they left off meaning if they used for a decade or more they’re quite behind.
I think our idea of “adult” is wrong. The age that your brain finishes maturing is 25, not 18.
Even then, there are 18 year olds I’ve met that have the maturity of a 25 year old and 25 year olds that just don’t seem to have a frontal lobe. Age is an important heuristic but certainly not the only important factor when you are thinking about emotional maturity and power dynamics in a relationship.
Not saying that this is always the case but it can be substance abuse related. Substances let the brain avoid confronting the “crises” that would otherwise result in psychosocial growth and development. When the person gets sober they have to pick up where they left off meaning if they used for a decade or more they’re quite behind.
Someone signing a lifelong legal binding agreement at 18 is pretty wild
Like getting your driver’s license and heading on the autobaun first thing
Just because you can doesn’t mean you should
18-25, 7 years. That’s half their current life and basically all they can remember. Just to the point where you should really think about marriage.
No one should feel obligated to get married. If that person cannot wait 7 years to tie the knot then they aren’t ready for the rest of the ~55+ years.