Thank you for commenting. I always appreciate feedback. I’d honestly prefer to date someone a bit closer to my age, as it’s easier to have things in common. However, I’m exceptionally fit (my VO2max is 52), most of my friends are in their mid-40s, I’m very active, and have a couple of genetic SNPs associated with longevity, which I credit with how well I have aged. Most people guess that I’m in my mid 40s, and are shocked to learn my actual age. I’m also fortunate enough to be well-educated, financially stable, and reasonably good looking, so I am able to attract the women I’m interested in. FWIW, I would consider women as young as 25 hypothetically, but in reality I think it’s unlikely that I’d find the type of connection I’m seeking with someone that age. Realistically, 30 is probably my lower limit.
I mean… If you would truly prefer dating someone your own age you would be dating someone your own age. There are more realistic options for you to become a parent and have a quality relationship built on mutual respect.
I think most people dating people more than half their age tend to prefer people they can control emotionally and financially, and they tend to have more than a dash of narcissism. The older I get the stranger it is for me to see people dating someone they have nothing in common with. Like, what do you talk about with these people?
You may be in great shape for your 60s, but aging isn’t a gradual progression. It happens in plateaus, and the likelihood of you not starting to have some issues with your memory and physical mobility by the time your child reaches adulthood is slim to none.
All good points for you. I guess the issue comes down to dating younger specifically to have kids. In a way it’s reductive, you’re not looking for a partner but shopping for a receptacle to give you a child.
From your additional comment I can see that’s not entirely the case, but if you would refuse to date a woman that is in all regards is a perfect match for you just because she’s closer to your age (and unable to have children) then that’s a bit of an issue.
Or let’s say you get with a woman that is 35 and start trying to have kids ASAP and that as a partner she’s an ideal match. Then after trying for a year no kid. You go to a fertility specialist, and it turns out that she’s infertile. What does this mean for you?
In my mind it’s always been partner first then child if we so choose.
This isn’t to say it’s wrong to want kids, but if that’s the primary factor that can have issues
Thank you for commenting. I always appreciate feedback. I’d honestly prefer to date someone a bit closer to my age, as it’s easier to have things in common. However, I’m exceptionally fit (my VO2max is 52), most of my friends are in their mid-40s, I’m very active, and have a couple of genetic SNPs associated with longevity, which I credit with how well I have aged. Most people guess that I’m in my mid 40s, and are shocked to learn my actual age. I’m also fortunate enough to be well-educated, financially stable, and reasonably good looking, so I am able to attract the women I’m interested in. FWIW, I would consider women as young as 25 hypothetically, but in reality I think it’s unlikely that I’d find the type of connection I’m seeking with someone that age. Realistically, 30 is probably my lower limit.
I mean… If you would truly prefer dating someone your own age you would be dating someone your own age. There are more realistic options for you to become a parent and have a quality relationship built on mutual respect.
I think most people dating people more than half their age tend to prefer people they can control emotionally and financially, and they tend to have more than a dash of narcissism. The older I get the stranger it is for me to see people dating someone they have nothing in common with. Like, what do you talk about with these people?
You may be in great shape for your 60s, but aging isn’t a gradual progression. It happens in plateaus, and the likelihood of you not starting to have some issues with your memory and physical mobility by the time your child reaches adulthood is slim to none.
All good points for you. I guess the issue comes down to dating younger specifically to have kids. In a way it’s reductive, you’re not looking for a partner but shopping for a receptacle to give you a child.
From your additional comment I can see that’s not entirely the case, but if you would refuse to date a woman that is in all regards is a perfect match for you just because she’s closer to your age (and unable to have children) then that’s a bit of an issue.
Or let’s say you get with a woman that is 35 and start trying to have kids ASAP and that as a partner she’s an ideal match. Then after trying for a year no kid. You go to a fertility specialist, and it turns out that she’s infertile. What does this mean for you?
In my mind it’s always been partner first then child if we so choose.
This isn’t to say it’s wrong to want kids, but if that’s the primary factor that can have issues