All good points for you. I guess the issue comes down to dating younger specifically to have kids. In a way it’s reductive, you’re not looking for a partner but shopping for a receptacle to give you a child.
From your additional comment I can see that’s not entirely the case, but if you would refuse to date a woman that is in all regards is a perfect match for you just because she’s closer to your age (and unable to have children) then that’s a bit of an issue.
Or let’s say you get with a woman that is 35 and start trying to have kids ASAP and that as a partner she’s an ideal match. Then after trying for a year no kid. You go to a fertility specialist, and it turns out that she’s infertile. What does this mean for you?
In my mind it’s always been partner first then child if we so choose.
This isn’t to say it’s wrong to want kids, but if that’s the primary factor that can have issues
All good points for you. I guess the issue comes down to dating younger specifically to have kids. In a way it’s reductive, you’re not looking for a partner but shopping for a receptacle to give you a child.
From your additional comment I can see that’s not entirely the case, but if you would refuse to date a woman that is in all regards is a perfect match for you just because she’s closer to your age (and unable to have children) then that’s a bit of an issue.
Or let’s say you get with a woman that is 35 and start trying to have kids ASAP and that as a partner she’s an ideal match. Then after trying for a year no kid. You go to a fertility specialist, and it turns out that she’s infertile. What does this mean for you?
In my mind it’s always been partner first then child if we so choose.
This isn’t to say it’s wrong to want kids, but if that’s the primary factor that can have issues