This will be a little controversial so please keep in mind this is c/nostupidquestions.
I feel like any relationship is, at its core, an agreement. An agreement between two people to spend their time, affection and dedication solely to each other. By virtue of their feelings for each other. This is normal.
However if it were truly up to me. I would just sleep with another girl every day of the week. I honestly don’t really care about spending time with her all that much. In fact, if I’m brutally honest. For me a relationship is a mean to get sex and I guess spending some time with her isn’t all that bad either. I am perfectly willing to stick to one woman. That is no problem to me whatsoever. But is this a healthy way of doing relationships?
Compromise doesn’t necessarily mean “less”
If you ask your boss for a 20% raise, and they give you a 10% raise and you stay there, you have compromised on what you wanted but you still got more than you had before.
Relationships are similar, you may not get everything you specifically want, but if you’re getting more than you have alone it may be a good idea to look for one. That could relate to all sorts of aspects of a relationship, from sharing chores and saving money on expenses to having someone available more easily/frequently to enjoy shared activities with.
Not all relationships are going to be worth it, in fact most will not until you find a “compatible” person where the alignment of your needs and willingness to do things for them end up, and their needs and willingness to do things for you end up with a net benefit to both people.
Two people that hate doing dishes and cooking could work, if you both make enough money to eat out every meal, but if you don’t those two people likely aren’t compatible. However, if you like cooking, and they don’t mind cleaning, that can be a reasonable compromise that benefits both people.