Having kids can be stressful, but if you don’t play a largely united front and instead allow the kids to play manipulative games against your partner, you don’t communicate, you take sides and turn on each other, then it’s because one or both of you is snide and used the kids to undermine the other person and the relationship.
It’s still not the kid’s fault if they were brought up to tolerate and play emotional games against family members. Kids start off life completely self absorbed and have to be taught to be kind, share, think about other people’s feelings and prioritise relationships over things. No toddler knows this. All functioning adults do.
It’s still not the kid’s fault if they were brought up to tolerate and play emotional games against family members.
Having kids myself and listening to them describe their fellow students’ situations at home, or even how we observe acquaintance’s kids act and how it mirrors parental behaviors, you can bet your ass that they learn from how their parents are acting and what they’re allowed to get away with.
Having kids can be stressful, but if you don’t play a largely united front and allow the kids to play manipulative games against your partner, don’t communicate, take sides and turn on each other, one or both of you is snide and used the kids to undermine both the other person and the relationship.
This is me and my wife.
It’s still not the kid’s fault if they were brought up to tolerate and play emotional games against family members. Kids start off life completely self absorbed and have to be taught to be kind, share, think about other people’s feelings and prioritise relationships over things. No toddler knows this. All functioning adults do.
I’m sure there are some kids who hate a parent and play the one against them.
Having kids can be stressful, but if you don’t play a largely united front and instead allow the kids to play manipulative games against your partner, you don’t communicate, you take sides and turn on each other, then it’s because one or both of you is snide and used the kids to undermine the other person and the relationship.
It’s still not the kid’s fault if they were brought up to tolerate and play emotional games against family members. Kids start off life completely self absorbed and have to be taught to be kind, share, think about other people’s feelings and prioritise relationships over things. No toddler knows this. All functioning adults do.
Having kids myself and listening to them describe their fellow students’ situations at home, or even how we observe acquaintance’s kids act and how it mirrors parental behaviors, you can bet your ass that they learn from how their parents are acting and what they’re allowed to get away with.
This is me and my wife.
This is my brother-in-law and his wife.
Not sure which way round you mean that. I hope the whole family has more harmony and happiness than just now, though.
Well my nephew has threatened to come kill us. My son has him blocked.
Wow. Sorry to hear that. That must be really tough to cope with.
Eh, just during family get-togethers. It’s fine though. I’m always packing.