I’m low-key glad for the Reddit API debacle that caused me to migrate over here. Although it seems that Reddit has become especially awful nowadays, Lemmy made me realise that this degradation had been happening for years.

Part of what masked it is that my favourite parts of Reddit were the niche communities that still had quality discourse in them. I especially liked the craft subreddits, which were full of vibrant users and useful resources. In hindsight, by the time I left Reddit, I was spending most of my time in these small communities, rather than the defaults.

To some extent, Reddit’s front page and default subs have always been a bit of a cess-pool of toxicity, but it wasn’t always as bad as it was when I left. It seems like it’s even worse now though. I wonder how much of that is because people who care about quality discussion migrated to platforms like this. Given how much I enjoy the vibe of Lemmy, my gut says that surely must have had a significant impact. However, my brain says that I’m probably overestimating the significance of our little pocket here.

Regardless, I’m glad to be here, and I’m glad you are here too. I hope that people like your partner will eventually find their own pockets of enjoyable psuedonymous community, whether on Lemmy or elsewhere — I’m not a drama enjoyer myself, but it’d be nice if people who like that could have a place where they can indulge in that without the unpleasantness you describe. I sympathise with people who feel overwhelmed by the fediverse, and I sometimes have to try not to evangelise too hard.