It was exactly like that for me. In the beginning I felt like I missed a lot of stuff on world but then I came back because they sanitized everything. This is the perfect middleground for me and the piracy community was also my introduction to the fediverse.

Something being a social construct doesn’t mean it doesn’t matter, especially in this society where your gender is a thing people want to know about so that they can form opinions about you. It is also a way of self expression because with your gender you can signal to the outside world how you see yourself and how you want to be.

If you are forced into a role that does not reflect who you are, you are going to have a rough time, because people automatically assign you traits and how they will treat you based on that role. And then it doesn’t matter if gender is a thing imposed on us by nature or something we invented to categorize people.

I’m not sure if this helps but I hope it does at least a little.

Do you want an honest answer to your questions or are you set on your worldviews?

Thank you I needed to hear that

I think yes but I would still call myself a lurker. I don’t feel any pressure here to write a good comment.

I am extremely scared of vomiting and I will have a panic attack when people talk about it for too long. Parties are horrible for me because of this.