It’s been wonderful to find a home here! Hoping for many more cake days for all of us here in this friendly little corner of our beloved blue marble!

You can’t polish a turd; you can roll it in glitter.

This seems pretty sound advice - https://youtube.com/shorts/JhQI06_V6NQ Source: Single/dating for ten years, now married for ten years.

This may be a good place to start. Most states (that I’m aware of) have workforce development programs with both online tools and physical offices with available assistance. For most state governments it is beneficial to retain high skilled and high paid workers as part of their tax base, and provide employment opportunities to low skilled and low experience workers to increase their contribution to the community.

You should be able to find automated notification tools on their web offerings (or even an available api), and their physical locations can be excellent resources for developing soft connections with the proffesional community in your field.

Best of luck in your search!

I’m more worried about innocent bystanders tbh…

Apologies for the late reply, wefwef ate my reply (but is getting better by the day, I think there were two or three updates just yesterday).

You are exactly spot on. I’ve seen suggestions put forward varying from implementing a karma system, to having admins taking a heavy handed and monolithic approach to community issues, all the way to default non-federation with new instances. All of which, after taking a look around, seem quite “un-Lemmy”. My suggestion is one of perspective and tone. Lemmy has wonderfully rough edges, but I like to think about it like crashing on a friend’s couch vs. staying at a hotel. A more homely experience perhaps, but much more personable.

Let’s get settled in, by all means, but let’s also take a look around and recognize that the system Lemmy and the larger Fediverse have built allowed it to be built not by some multi-billion dollar company or VC funded startup, but by just some regular folks. If that system got us all this far together, there might be something to trust there.

I’ll give it a shot!

If we’re new users, where we are at now (Lemmy) is different than the sites we used to frequent in subtle but important ways.

I believe those differences are an important reason why Lemmy has cultivated such a vibrant and positive community up to this point.

I believe it is important that new users unfamiliar with the space allow Lemmy patience as issues caused by the recent influx are dealt with in a uniquely “Lemmy” way.

I believe it is this uniquely “Lemmy” way of solving problems that sets it apart from the “corporate” alternative.

Oh! Almost forgot, most of the instances are getting hammered and are all volunteer run, so big helpings of kindness and patience are helpful, and if you’re able doing the whole “Toss a coin to your Witcher” thing will help keep the lights on. I’m trying to think of a commercial website or service that has undergone this level of growth without just completely falling over, and I’m coming up blank. I blame FOSS. 😉

Absolutely! The vibe is more chill. There’s not the content churn there was on Reddit, but when I examined my consumption habits on Reddit I realized most of the churn was just reposts anyway. Lemmey is all the meat, and none of the fat.