i am non-binary transfem and my living area is usually messy but nowhere near like a dumpster. however, i do have some bad habits from having ADHD and also never being told to clean as a kid because my mother was an obsessive house cleaner so she got to everything first. so while i was raised male i’m not a man but i definitely was allowed to be messy as a boy… so i’m sure that contributes to a degree. my guess is we raised boys to be less tidy because we wanted them to focus on more traditionally masculine career paths.

you can come in whoever you want

no lol

yeah you need to drop this bullshit American mentality, sorry.

i don’t understand why you’re bothered by this, honestly. sounds like you have psychological hangups regarding being given stuff for free and should absolutely not project that shame on your son.

I didn’t know AIDS could be this degree of silent. It’s truly scary. I’m partnered for life but would absolutely go on PrEP if I were single. No thank you.

After doing my own searching I was able to learn how this death was possible. For those who were just as confused as me, AIDS can become deadly rapidly and suddenly once the immunity threshold is breached and collapses in those with low symptom or symptomless HIV. Basically, his immune system was able to hold back the infections for as long as it could, and when it eventually progressed into AIDS it was like a dam broke and flooded his system. The infections overwhelmed his body and killed him. It’s likely that the HIV progressed to AIDS very recently for him. Most people with AIDS live to know they have it, some don’t. This is a case of untreated and undiscovered HIV. His body was fighting off opportunistic infections during the HIV stage until AIDS made it impossible and the infection took over quickly.

i used to. they’re terrible. i couldn’t stand the infighting and dumbassery.