YarrMatey

Ye be welcome aboard mateys 🏴‍☠️

Create-a-style was also awesome!

I was actually going to say I hated how misogynistic teachers were at school when it came to any dress code. They hyper focused on what girls were wearing, were their straps too narrow, were their shorts/skirts too high, etc. I have had teachers harass me about my clothes during my entire schooling starting from elementary school. We are drilled into us that our bodies are too revealing, scandalous, and dirty, so we should be ashamed. But then you become an adult and no one really gives a fuck what you wear. The only place that cares is where you end up working, and that can really be anything ranging from a fast food uniform to a suit to whatever you want to wear, etc. I’m not sure what your age is, but schools have made girls feel responsible for how other boys and men feel about their clothes since before social media. It’s our fault for being a “distraction” and ruining the learning environment. I had a male teacher fixate on me at one point, he said he turned his a/c on 24/7 to force all the girls to cover up but when I wouldn’t since I liked the a/c then it became his mission to stop lessons to tell me to cover up aka put a jacket on and make a big deal if I did not have one that day. Your comment reminded me of that teacher, and how much I was slut-shamed because my tank tops revealed my shoulders - gasp!

https://leta.mullvad.net/ uses Brave or Google

https://searx.space/ uses any of the big search engines you want, you do have to pick an instance

I’ve dealt with dating people with a video game addiction. We barely spent time together, let alone spoke to each other. And I played video games but didn’t spend my entire day doing it to the point of missing eating meals together, ignoring what my partner says to me, neglecting chores, losing sleep, etc. My partner gave me the time of day when they wanted sex, that was it. Ignored for my birthday, dating anniversary, valentines day, etc. I barely had a friend, not really a partner. I was told if I wanted to spend time with them or talk to them, I would have to game with them and join discord with 10 other guys talking at once and playing games. It didn’t help that I had little interest in the games they liked and vice versa. And I would hear from other women dealing with the same thing. It’s not that we don’t have other hobbies or need constant attention, it’s that there is very little to no connection going on with our partners. No emotional intimacy erodes relationships.

My first experiences on the internet were riddled with misogyny. As a child, I was told I am lying about being a girl and didn’t sound like one. I had many guys tell me “tits or gtfo” when learning I’m a girl, usually after they asked me if I was a girl. I tried playing some multiplayer team games online and was hazed once they found out I was a girl, multiple times. I refuse to play those games now. Even as an adult, I’ve had gamer guys think I’m great until they learn I’m a feminist, then the hate comes back. I’ve dated an adult man who belittled me for playing Sims because people with real lives play games like Overwatch. At least mainstream media felt like there were more women around, lemmy just feels more centered for men :/

I get that men are terrified about false rape accusations, even though there is an extremely low chance of it happening, they are afraid. When someone talks about sexual assault, in their mind they feel they need to defend themselves by bringing up false accusations because in their mind it will discourage this crime, bring light to real victims, and thus protect themselves. I’m not a man but this is what I’ve been told. Then you have victims, who simply want their rapist and other rapists to face justice. They often know others around them who have also been sexually assaulted. When they talk about sexual assault and someone else brings up false accusations, it feels like they don’t actually care about the victims and just want to soapbox about false accusations, stealing the spotlight. They might even be a toxic part of the manosphere.

The nature of the crime means it is usually the victim and the perpetrator alone and not in public, and the victim is more likely to know who the assaulter is. It can be a family member, friend, partner, etc. There usually isn’t much evidence to prove sexual assault. So we have a problem. As you said, you don’t believe a hefty amount of these sexual assaults should have laws enforced on them. I don’t have a solution, other than a suggestion that people should be more empathetic towards victims. And not ask questions like yours to victims.

Not sure if you were just reiterating, but yes it is depressing. It takes bravery to step forward knowing that it can cause further damage to oneself. Not just socially but mentally. I don’t have a perfect solution to this. But when the perpetrator is Trump, I doubt justice is going to happen.

I absolutely agree. If rape kits are made, they can be backlogged and then degrade, which is extremely depressing to think about.

Threads like this need to be followed up with eyebleach (a community full of cute animals and such).

Lemmy is mostly men, it is hard to share any other perspective. SA is hard to get a conviction in. If there isn’t physical evidence like semen, then the victim is called a liar. If there is semen evidence, then the victim is called someone who regretted their choice and is now getting back at the person. (And this is assuming the perpetrator was male, there can be female perpetrators too). A lot of victims do not come forward about what happened because they don’t want to be called a liar and labeled a pariah publicly. The absolute shame and rejection when someone doesn’t believe you. This subject is pretty sensitive to me and lemmy just really, really disappoints sometimes.

It does work with VPNs that are approved.

https://real-debrid.com/vpn

Disabled people are not going to all agree on everything, especially when they are pretty diverse. Some will like gen ai, and some will not.

You should read this thread, had a lot of perspectives on this.

https://sh.itjust.works/post/39160164

when a website password breeds

I didn’t know passwords could reproduce, is that how password generators work? /j

“Permanently locked bootloader” means you can’t unlock the bootloader so you can flash a different OS. If you can’t unlock the bootloader, you can’t flash. A lot of phones are like this, like Samsung’s galaxy series. I got really fucked by Samsung with the S10 because of this. You need to buy a specific type of phone and security patch if you want to flash. I went with the Pixel bought unlocked from Google so I could use GrapheneOS. It was very easy to unlock the bootloader and then relock it back. I noticed you said the pixel does not have good reception in your country, I would look more into this before going with it if this is the case.

What about something like Posteo or Mailbox? I’ve heard self-hosting email is hard for newbs, so I’ve been thinking of getting a domain and connecting it to something like the above. Getting a domain does reveal your identity, but email is also not really private. Also do you have a domain registar recommendation for email?

I currently have Proton unlimited, but I really only need the VPN for obvious reasons. While I do use the drive, I also have filen. For passwords I use a mix of Bitwarden and Keepass. I do use the hell out of simple login, but that can be replaced with Addy or something else. So I don’t really need Proton unlimited.

As others said, you would have to message the mods of the community or admins of the instance that banned you. Looking at your modlog, I don’t think these can all be overturned since some are too blatant. But I guess you won’t know until you try. In the future, only participate in communities you are interested in after having read the rules, otherwise it just seems like your intentions were to troll.

You can view your modlog here:

https://lemmy.ca/modlog?page=1&actionType=All&userId=334067

Last release was in mars

Which tech billionaire flew the dev team into space for this? /j

So you believe an ethical AI cannot exist no matter what, you accuse me of being a police bootlicker, gullible, and neutral to worker exploitation, and I am supposed to respond to this in good faith? Sorry, not going to take your bait and engage in a flame war with you, after all it is rule 1 here.