My two cents: Imo the question is deeply flawed. “Win a girl” and “being out of someone’s league” are assumptions that prevent you from reaching a rational answer. It is like asking “which color makes me look more like a french planet?” It just does not make sense. My reasoning is that (as others pointed out) a girl is not something you win, because relationships were never a game. Nobody talks like this about friends, or how to “win” your brother’s trust and friendship. It is a made up “hustler rat” mindset that has permeated through the “winner-loser” trope, and prevents people from seeing the opposite sex as a fellow human being. So then leagues are a deformation of people’s personal compatibility and preferences. Someone “out of your league” could at most be interpreted as “lack of compatible lifestyle, goals, interests, and ideals”. And even those factors in a person change over time as we grow and alter our interests. Sometimes we like calm people around us, sometimes we prefer someone that pulls us out of our comfort zone, or listens and is attentive, reflexive, or conscious about a topic we are also worried about, and so we relate to each other through our way of thinking. And then very often we even fall or become infatuated with the idea of someone that we built in our heads, which seems to happen far too often.
As some other commenters said, the more you interact and show interest and care for people, the more they will surprise you and the more likely you will find meaningful connections, maybe even a relationship. People make the relationship the goal and forget about the people, turning human contact into an empty experience.
My two cents: Imo the question is deeply flawed. “Win a girl” and “being out of someone’s league” are assumptions that prevent you from reaching a rational answer. It is like asking “which color makes me look more like a french planet?” It just does not make sense. My reasoning is that (as others pointed out) a girl is not something you win, because relationships were never a game. Nobody talks like this about friends, or how to “win” your brother’s trust and friendship. It is a made up “hustler rat” mindset that has permeated through the “winner-loser” trope, and prevents people from seeing the opposite sex as a fellow human being. So then leagues are a deformation of people’s personal compatibility and preferences. Someone “out of your league” could at most be interpreted as “lack of compatible lifestyle, goals, interests, and ideals”. And even those factors in a person change over time as we grow and alter our interests. Sometimes we like calm people around us, sometimes we prefer someone that pulls us out of our comfort zone, or listens and is attentive, reflexive, or conscious about a topic we are also worried about, and so we relate to each other through our way of thinking. And then very often we even fall or become infatuated with the idea of someone that we built in our heads, which seems to happen far too often.
As some other commenters said, the more you interact and show interest and care for people, the more they will surprise you and the more likely you will find meaningful connections, maybe even a relationship. People make the relationship the goal and forget about the people, turning human contact into an empty experience.