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  • Haven’t watched but going by your description alone : absolutely and I think it’s necessary.

    Your closest person could be ok with most topics except for a few that maybe you talk to a therapist about as this person would incredibly sensitive with said topics to the point they’d have a meltdown or have very limited experience and start giving terrible and/or biased advice on. And maybe you care about all the other aspects about this person enough that you just save it for the therapist. EG: family trauma, mental illness, etc. and the therapist relationship, while different and not as deep, it can functionally overlap these missing parts and give you what you need to share it.

    Or maybe that person does understand but can’t find the right language and say it in the way you need or want to hear it. Or you could have issues trying to share your perspective. Again: what a trained therapist can help you with.

    And that is fair. I think we need to understand and respect the limitations of the people we love and respect our own boundaries about such topics. There’s only so far you can stretch a person or the relationship with them. It’s healthy to recognize this.

    It’s also important to realize that no one other person on earth is going to be your entire witness of your life. Especially when they are already witnessing their own life. Equally: You are your full witness. This is your journey. You’re just sharing part of your ride with other people.





  • Expanding on the second point: we are what we focus on. if you are practicing to be the type of person who believes people are bad you look for the evidence of bad in people. “Everyone lets me down”. To do this requires discounting and avoiding and ignoring the good that people do.

    This means if you do this sort of thing you’re also not that great of a person.

    Just imagine being on the other side of it: think of all the nice things you might do for such a person and got overlooked because they focus on complaining about all the bad people in their life all just to prove people are bad.







  • I’ll bet the kids have zero clue how an estate is processed and will be deeply disappointed when the bills from all the current court cases from doing illegal shit prior to presidency (and during) eats it all up.

    Dude applied for bankruptcy 4 times already. That there impacts an estate.

    If they had half a brain they would have distanced themselves far away from his black hole and make sure to change their last name on everything if they were expecting to have any future.

    You dont see the name hitler swinging around all that frequently anymore for a reason.


  • Yes not disagreeing with you on that. Just trying to bring attention to the fact that if something is illegal doesnt mean it necessarily deters a pure asshole with intent to double down.

    I’d have loved to see the dude at least do some time for his part in that kid’s death. For what he did to that kid AND that kid’s family. And what guts me is this guy has a kid himself whom he is super protective of. Still doesnt sink in. So even doing time might not have sunk in for him but at least the dead kid’s family could feel better.



  • I dunno, it takes a type.

    Knew a guy online who was part of a game guild and regularly told a teenager to go kill himself for not healing him on time during raids.

    One day the Kid shot himself.

    The guy was a full on asshole in rl, much older than the kid, had a family and a job and told himself and everyone that he wasn’t at fault cuz the kid was not mentally stable.

    Like dude, regardless of someone’s mental health he is a bully with an anger problem and leaned into unleashing it on a young kid.


  • They get angry if someone else is having buttsex witin the privacy of their own house and are of the same gender.

    They get angry if someone else has any autonomy over their own body.

    They get angry if someone with slightly different color skin or speaks slightly differently is pulling a paycheck doing a job they wouldn’t do and looking after their own family. Basically existing.

    You say that as if republicans have suddenly developed a critical thinking ability and wouldn’t simply give into ego to be angry at the principle.