Openwrt is my main option. I am looking at it a lot.

But if I’m not at home there’s noone else that can service the router. That’s my main issue

Though not all tools here are FOSS. A lot of them are and I usually recommend it as a starting point.

https://www.privacyguides.org/en/tools/

Looks like you unlocked nihilism.

Idk man, I just really like spending time with friends and drinking coffee.

Who cares if there isn’t a higher purpose?

Fuck it we ball